Okay, so here's the skinny:
my FMIL and I don't see eye to eye. She tell my FH she loves me, but is totally rude to me and my family whenever we talk to her. My FIL's haven't paid for one dime of the wedding, RD, HM, anything, and got seriously offended when my FH asked if they were helping out with the bar tab. They told him they don't have that kind of money and would try to save "as much as possible" until the wedding and give that to us as a wedding gift that we can use to pay whatever bill we want. Please keep in mind that his parent's are not poor, and smoke a carton of cigarettes a week. Which is there life, and they don't owe us anything, but a little help would have been nice.
So, my FMIL insisted that my fiance's younger sister be in the wedding party (she's 16, so I asked her to be a junior bridesmaid, and my FMIL threw a fit), and then is refusing to buy her the dress I have picked out. She told me that Gabby (my FSIL) could just wear an old prom dress. So I bought her dress. Then my FSIL got upset because, per my FH request, I had straps put on her dress. According to her I was "singling her out as a minor so that none of the boys there would talk to her". And yesterday, my FH's brother sent him a message saying we had to pay for his tux if we expect him to be in our wedding. I feel like I can't win, and my poor FH is so embarrased. He appologizes all the time, and I feel terrible that he feels so guilty!
My FMIL keeps inviting people that neither of us know to the wedding without talking to us about it. My parents are paying for a large amount of the wedding and we are paying for the rest! My FIL also got uspet when my mom asked them if they would help make some of the food for the bridal shower. She told my mom "you are just putting too many burdens on us!" And yet, she keeps inviting people to our wedding, putting a huge fiscal burden on US!
Aside from my FIL's being difficult, my little sister and my mother have teamed up against every idea I've had. I wanted a certain color dress; it didn't look good on my sister, so I had to change it. I wanted a certain style; it didn't look good on my sister so I had to change it. I bought shoes that I thought were super cute and comfortable; my little sister wanted heels and kind of had a tantrum until I changed them. Every time I try to stand my ground and say "this is what I want", they start calling me bridezilla and tell me I'm too dramatic!
I need advice, and words of wisdom.