choosing bridesmaids, new or old friends??

crc07h

So how did you go about choosing bridesmaids?? I have 3 friends that I have been close to since we were 14, but I only speak to one on a regular basis, and she has "called" MOH. I'm perfectly okay with that but I think I would like to have another MOH as well, a good college friend. 2 MOH okay? 

And--I am friends with all of my roommates, and they have kind of already talked about being BMs..is it horrible not to include one of them, or any of them? I feel like I have to do all or nobody to ensure it not being awkward (I am living with them next year too) If I include everyone that's 8 girls, (including my FI's little sister, jr BM). 

so should I just go with the roommates, MOH from HS and MOH from college? 

Or could I just have one MOH, the other friend a bridesmaid and the JrBM (she needs to be up there)? 

Thanks 

deepcovejackie

Looks like you've got a little more than a year until our wedding.  Take some time, ie a few months and decide.  Don't ask your wedding party too early.

xoxob

STOP! DROP! AND BEAN DIP!  Don't pick your bridal party yet! At the earliest a year, at the latest 6 months. Even a year can be early. If anyone else mentions it, bean dip it! Change the subject! Walk away!

Who would you call to bail you out of jail?

There are your answers.

sassyredd2010

i agree..take your time and really think about this one...i picked some old friends that we were really close in highschool and talk a little now to be bridesmaids and one is my MOH. i am having alot of problems having everyone stay on track...the only people that are on top of that is my 2 maids of honor. good luck!

Kniblet

xoxo, you crack me up.

And the ladies are correct, choose closer to the wedding.    More than likely, it will save you a lot of possible headaches and worry.

Good luck!

JennaV26

I really believe that choosing my bridesmaids was one of the most difficult things I've done. I finally asked myself who the first people are that I want to call when something great happens and when something really bad happens. I ended up with 7 girls (kind of a lot... plus 2 girls in my "house party" - ahhh!) and I ended up having to leave out a couple of my really good friends - including my best friend from HS whom I haven't spoken with in awhile but still love dearly; and you know what? She called me this week to tell me she made her arrangements for the wedding and was so excited to come!

Most of your good friends will be understanding about who you pick or don't pick. Being invited to the wedding is still a big deal. Just think about who you turn to in the best and worst of situations right now and choose those girls to stand by your side on your wedding day.

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I would wait till you are closer, but just make sure you choose good people who mean a lot to you and are close to you. For me, I have my sister (MOH), 2 cousins, FI's sister, FI's cousin, and a friend of ours from church (she is much younger than us, but she is a great girl). I know, kinda sad, but my good friend from HS whom I still talk to declined my asking her to be a BM. Didn't tell me why, but I have my reasons and didn't take it personally. I know I have 6 great girls standing beside me on my special day and that is all that matters to me.

crc07h

thanks for the advice.. yall are right I have tons of time and I don't really want to be thinking of this now but I am the first out of my friends and roommates to get engaged or think of being engaged, so they're (roommates) trying to help me plan stuff (and I haven't even really started planning!) and some are assuming that they will be bms, "what color should our dresses be?? and blah blah" so thanks all of you and xoxo, I will def remember that--and I will definitely avoid the subject b/c I want to choose my bms I don't want them to choose themselves!! ha! maybe I will cut all the crap and just have the 2 I wanted in the first place and my FI's sister. everyone else is too stressful! but of course I won't say anything for at least 6 mos or so!

tommyandy

Hooray your friends are all excited this week about your wedding!  Listen to xoxob.  I would also consider family first, both yours & FI's.  You will be with them a lot longer.

lharri12

IMO, if you think your relationship with someone might change between now and then, you probably shouldn't have them in your bridal party.  I am of the opinion that you want your bridesmaids to be people you have been close with for a very long time and not people who you might not even talk to a couple years from now.  I'm having my best friend since gradeschool as my Maid of Honor, my sister as Matron of Honor, my 14 year old niece as junior bridesmaid, and that's it.  I do not like the idea of having a ton of bridesmaids, unless you have many sisters and/or a large group of friends that you've been close to for many years.  Personally, I don't want to look at my wedding photos years from now and think, "what was her name? Who was she again?"  That's just me.
And yes, it's okay to have two Maids of Honor, if that's what YOU want.

amwilli5

I have a lot of really good friends that would absolutely be BM's if asked.  But I thought to myself who is it that are first to be called when anything happens and called them ( who else?!!) The tohers are guests and understand perfectly