I have seen a few other posts with similar situations, I decided to post because of one detail, my FIL's are basically paying for the wedding. The original plan was FI and I would be able to pay for everything then circumstances happened and we haven't. His parents are financially stable where as my family simply just doesn't have the extra. My dream wedding would be very small, intimate,and personalized- but I am marrying into a BIG catholic famliy so thats not an option. Also, my style (and FI for the most part) is very modern, ecclectic (sp?) I pride myself on being different and I really want to surprise our guests. However..... FMIL is very traditional and stoic and unmoving. We are getting the decor we want, and photographer, DJ, flowers etc but she is very adament about what she doesnt like: I do not want a veil- I have looked at headpieces and eve hats and she just sticks her nose up, FI and I would like to make a donation (OUR money) to a non profit instead of favors but she requires favors!! (Candy doesn't count). And apparently escort cards are insulting to the guests. These things and the other small things I can live with, it is the stuff I can get and pay for and she wont know the difference until the day then get over it.
My biggest problem is that my DREAM is small/intimate/personalized and our reception venue max is 190, we sent STDs to about 230 (BIG Catholic family) FI and her say a lot wont show but im kinda freaking out because it is June and people like to vacation and I have a feeling we are really going to cut it close... earlier tonight I was talking with FI and he told me a secret- (FMIL is a charge nurse) and she has invited all of the nurses that work for her! We know this is a gift grab she tells us this all the time (a mimimum of 3 registries is also 'required' and a honeymoon registry is tacky) With this latest information I dont know what to do I just feel like my wedding is going to look like what I want but not the experience, which really is the most important part.. I really dont know how to handle this or her i am just so done i dont want to have the wedding at all...
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