My mother and I have a very strained relationship and we have all my life. She's been abusive to me for most of my life and the relationship has been probably the biggest pain in my heart...
She has told me she hates me and wants nothing to do with me... but before I got engaged she kept mentioning how she was going to be at the wedding and intended on being involved.
I just got engaged very recently [yay!] and have not told her yet
she doesn't know my fiance's family or my fiance very well, but already whenever I talk to her she used to tell me things like if my boyfriend and I ever got married we'd end up with a messy divorce and horrible disgraceful children.
I will be as honest and frank as possible here.
I love my mother. I always have. I always will.
But our relationship has become a thing of obligation. I talk to her when I can because she's my mother and I love her. I visit her when I can because she's my mother and I love her. I make attempts to repair our relationship because she's my mother and I love her.
But she provides nothing positive to my life anymore. Only negative.
I feel like I SHOULD invite my mother to the wedding because she's my mother and it's a big deal.
But I'm absolutely terrified of inviting her because whenever she's around me she does bad things and sabotages things.
I would only invite her for her enjoyment.
I'm afraid I'd be scared of what'd she'd say to guests or do at the wedding.
I'm terrified of inviting her but I feel like it's the right thing to do.
What do you think? Should I invite her?