My finace's mom is having a hard time remembering this is our wedding not hers. Everything has to be (so she thinks) the way she wants it. Down to the shower -- which last I knew, my bridesmaids planned that (as they are). She is mad about the location, and that it's in February because it might snow and the roads might be bad. We're getting married in April...WHEN ELSE WOULD SHE SUGGEST WE HAVE IT!?!?! Her fix to it is that I have 2 showers, 1 in Feb, and another one later (but still before the wedding) in case it snows and people can't make it. Maybe I'm just making it a big deal, but really!?!?! It's September, it's not guaranteed to snow on that day and even if it does...if it gets bad and people can't make it...so what, they can send a gift, bring the gift to the wedding, or not give a gift at all. It really doesn't matter to me. I have told her MULTIPLE times that I only want one shower and if people can't make it that is fine. I'm at my breaking point with her because this is only one of the issues....but it's the one that won't go away. Any advice to get her off my back?