Wedding Dress Dilemma

aogrady0820

I tried on over 20 dresses last weekend.  The first dress was the ONLY dress that I got emotional at...  the rest I loved, but they were all beautiful dresses!  The 2nd dress I loved was at DB and was beautiful as well, but I didn't feel it was 'it" ...  the 3rd dress was the final dress I tried on, and was the one I decided was "the one".

The thing is, my step mom was there.  She was overbearing, looking at ALL the price tags (even though I'm footing the bill for most everything) and just...  ugh...  after 6 months of "don't rush into a decision you may regret" she wants me to rush into the decision about my wedding dress?!  It makes no sense.

Anyway, I've now heard her relate the story of finding my dress to 3 people.  According to her it was miserable, they didn't have a petticoat for me to try on, and the place was an un-organized mess of a dress warehouse...  and how I should thank my lucky stars that SHE took it upon herself to find dresses that weren't in my size for me to try on, or I wouldn't have found my dress at all...

Thing is... now I don't feel like it is my dress...  I feel like its HER dress, and that SHE was miserable, so thinking of the dress just makes me envision her telling this story on my wedding day and...  well I don't want the dress now.

How do I tell her I've decided on the 1st dress I tried on and got emotional at?

Thanks in advance...
alli

Maggie0829

First question...is she paying for your dress?

If the answer is no...don't even think about telling her what dress you chose.  If you absolutely love it and want it then go and get it.  If she asks about your dress just tell her that you want it to be a surprise.

If the answer is yes...I would sit her down and tell her how you feel about the dress.  Let her know that you can see yourself getting married in it and that you feel gorgeous in it.

As far as her other comments, you just need to try and ignore them or if you are comfortable, tell her that what she said hurt your feelings and then leave it at that.

Remember that you need to wear the dress and you should wear the dress that you love and not some other dress just to make other people happy.

LoveMuffins

Everything Maggie said.

Also, if I overheard her saying anything that wasn't true about how the store was run I might step in and say something like, "I actually had a lot of fun, I wasn't miserable at all and I thought they did a great job." Cuz it's not fair to malign the store unless the deserve it. The rest of the stuff she's saying, I might just roll my eyes if I happen to catch the person she's talking to eye as if to say "Oh... negative SM... you know how she can be."

aogrady0820

Thanks a lot for your input!

I did, and so did the captive audience, try to lighten the thoughts of the conversation, by saying things like "It was like a treasure hunt" or how "exciting it was to have to FIND the dress... "

she just killed every comment with a roll of the eyes...

I'm going to try on the original dress again this weekend