Female groomsman

azdancer8

FI's best girl friend is standing on his side with him, and I want her to coordinate with everyone else, but don't want to dictate what she has to wear. I don't think she should be in the same attire as the bridesmaids, and FI's family would freak out if she was in a tux or suit. Is it ok to ask her to choose any long black dress with a wrap/jacket, or should I provide a few options for her to pick from? Or are there other options I could consider?

AutumnFair

I think both options you thought of work out fine. I've seen groomswomen wear a black dress with an accent bow or whatever that matches the main color theme picked and I've seen some where a BM dress (I've also seen it be where the dress is two tone and switched from the BM). 

heyimbren

I like Autumn's ideas. Both work. I think I particularly like the idea of her just wearing any dress that matches the GM's suits maybe? Seems fair to me.

trix1223

My friend had her brother as her honor attendant, and her DH had his sister as his honor attendant.  Her brother wore the same tux as the other guys.  His sister wore the same dress as the other women.  It looked great.

Don't rule out having her in the same dress as the BMs.  It gave a nice, cohesive look to the WP.

And WP attire doesn't need to be determined by what side someone is on.  Just because she's standing on the groom's side doesn't mean she has to be in a tux anymore than a guy on the bride's side has to wear a dress.  That's just silly.

mysticl

A friend of mine is having a Best Woman instead of a Best Man.  I believe she is wearing a dress that will be a color the coordinates with the bridesmaids but not the same. 

Caitsidhe

that was my plan for my fiancee's girl. Or to get her the same dress as my bridesmaid's, but in black to match his side.

ehathewa

I love the idea of a black dress with the accent color of your BMs. 

Have you asked her what she would like to wear?

lalap69

They did this at a friend of mine's wedding.  She wore the same dress as the BMs but in black:



I also think that saying any black dress is fine. 

We're having groomswomen in our wedding, and they'll be wearing dresses that match the groomsmen's vests.

aerinpegadrak

Since our bridesmaids were in black with silver accents, I asked the groomswoman to get a silver dress.  She came back with a dress that had a silver bodice and a black skirt, but since she'd already bought it, I went along with it, and it still looked really nice.  Since the groomsmen were in white tuxes, I gave her a white wrap to wear for the ceremony and pictures.

There aren't really any rules for this, it's just what everyone is comfortable with.

AerikaAwright

We also have a female groosman. I'm trying it figure out how you list them on the program and stuff. She's wearing the same dress as my bridesmaids since 3 of my maids are in black and 3 are in red. I just told her to wear the same dress in black since it matched the guys side. 

meamolly

A friend of mine wore a black dress that matched the BM and  wore a cummerbund to match the groomsmen

tldh

I think any dark color would work  When I was the best woman in a wedding I was in a navy blue dress and the MOH was in a royal blue dress.

kribble7826

A friend of mine had one. She wore a black dress and a tie that matched all the other groomsmen. We called her a groomsgirl. It can be done.

Kappell&Cofer

My Fi's best friend is a girl and she is wearing the same thing at my bridesmaids - even holding a bouquet!  It's really up to what you want it to look like. Luckily, my Fi's groomswoman is gracious and easy-going so she just said "it's your wedding, I am happy to wear whatever" Ultimately, she did admit that she did want to match the bridesmaids. I am also including her in all of my bridesmaid pre-wedding things. She came to help look at dresses and she's invited to the bachelorette party and bridal luncheon. Even though she is on the groom's side, she is still a girl!

Ccfx2935

I have the extreme pleasure of being a GroomsPerson in a dear friend's wedding next November, and while it has definitely raised some eyebrows I'm honored to embrace that role. 

The bride-to-be, groom-to-be, and myself have talked a bit about what I would be wearing, the decision is that I will be in black, although a style of dress has not been decided upon yet.

It's ultimately up to the bride and groom, however I love the idea of gender swapping attendants it allows the bride and/or groom to have their nearest and dearest standing up next to them on their big day.

That's what it's all about. Having a day where you celebrate your love with those people closest to you. It doesn't matter who wears what color, or what style, as long as they are happy and feel beautiful/handsome that is what is going to come through in the pictures.