Need a good idea!

emaguirern

So I was raised by my single mom, dad was never in the picture, my fiance's mom passed away many years ago - I decided that I don't want to dance with my mom at the wedding.. but, I want to do something extra special for her, to show my great appreciation for everything she has given me. Any ideas?

CowboyLvr

The obvious (I think) is to make a toast to her.  What about a special slide show, reading (maybe her favorite poem/quote/etc. . .), dedicating a special song, maybe a nice display of photos of her/you and her (if you're crafty)?  I don't know if you've already planned to have her walk you down the aisle, but I've seen a number of brides raised by a single mom do that.  Another idea is instead of giving her a gift in private, arrange to do it at the reception where you can give a heartfelt speech.

OliveOilsMom

Talk with your FI about this before you plan anything.  He may feel odd that he won't be doing a simliar thing for his dad.  Assuming FI's dad is in the picture, what do you think about dancing with FFIL and FI dancing with your mom?  You could do it to the same song.  That way, both will be showed that they are honored.

BetsyGIles19

I was thinking the exact same thing as OliveOilsMom.  If his dad is in the picture you should do a special dance with them.  I think that's a lovely idea.  I think it's nice because it's not just you honoring her it's sorta both of you honoring each other's parents since he's dancing with your mom and you'd be dancing with his dad.

graysquirrel

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[QUOTE]Talk with your FI about this before you plan anything.  He may feel odd that he won't be doing a simliar thing for his dad.  Assuming FI's dad is in the picture, what do you think about dancing with FFIL and FI dancing with your mom?  You could do it to the same song.  That way, both will be showed that they are honored.
Posted by OliveOilsMom[/QUOTE]

I really like this idea! Doing both parent dances at the same time is a life saver for your guests. They get tired of sitting with nothing to do. This way you can honor your parents, show symbolism of families coming together, and kill two birds.

I think that a speech about your mom would be misplaced at the reception, but you could specifically thank her when you thank the guests for coming.