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Bridesmaids Dilemma....HELP!!!!!!!!!

teachergurl2002teachergurl2002 member
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My roommate and I were best friends in college. We remained very close for a number of years after and I was in her wedding in 1998. Sadly we have drifted over the years. Life has taken us in other directions. We still talk often, mostly through text message and Facebook. I have not seen her in 4 or 5 years. I recently became engaged and have picked my bridesmaids. I have 5 total. 3 of which are family: my sister and my 2 nieces. The other 2 are my closest/best friends I have had in 20 years. I dont really want to add a 6th bridesmaid but I feel horribly guilty for not asking her. I am not a young bride, I just turned 39. I dont want a gaggle of girls in my wedding party.  I still feel close to her....I would do anything for her and I know vice-versa. Other people have suggested that I have her do something special like a reading. I am torn, I just don't know what to do.....
Any advice, ideas or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!!!!!!
Thank you-
Dianne
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Re: Bridesmaids Dilemma....HELP!!!!!!!!!

  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
    Moderator Knottie Warrior 5000 Comments 500 Love Its
    edited December 2011
    After 4 or 5 years of not seeing each other, I can't imagine she would even expect to be in your wedding.  Being an invited guest is an honor.  Just invite her and that will be fine.
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  • jhedgejhedge member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I was having a similar dilemma. I would say if you still feel close to her to go for it, but in my case I didn't ask my best friend. I talk to her a little on facebook but we haven't hung out since college. Again we both went our own ways. I would stick to people you are very close to currently. However if you are close to her still I would say ask her Laughing
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  • midgetthemightymidgetthemighty
    5000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011

    If you still feel close to her, ask her to be a bridesmaid. If you don't feel that close to her, being a guest is still an honor.

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  • rswan412rswan412 member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    You could also invite her as a guest and ask her to do a reading at the ceremony- this will make her feel included and important- not sure if you're doing readings at your ceremony though!
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  • grcrociogrcrocio member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011

    Since you do not have the same relationship as you used to five years ago just invite her as a guest.

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  • covejackcovejack
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Yeah, invite her as a guest.  I think it will be fine.
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