Anyone Elses Mom being a PITA

broomstick88

my mom is being a total pain in the a$$. some of you know the great dress debocale we had over the weekend (I found a dress shopping with my dad and my mom is being aweful about it) . she has declared that "it's your wedding, do whatever you want" but she hasn't spoken to me since we went dress shopping. i did order the dress and now she's ignoring my existence.

anyone elses mom being a pouty little snot when they don't get their way about your big day. i need to hear other people's awsome WTF stories for some support.

broomstick88

my dad is paying for 95% of the wedding and i'm paying for the last 5%

kmmssg

I'm a MOB and I think that if you keep your boundaries firm and don't let her get away with any pouting she will knock it off.  You can invite her to wedding appointments and what not, but if she brings up the dress or some other thing she doesn't like about the wedding you remind her the decision is done and then try to bean dip her.

From a MOB POV - any chance she is really jealous and insecure that your dad is paying for your wedding and she has no control?  I can see how that could manifest into something pretty ugly but it doesn't mean you have to be in the middle of it.

If she continues, do your planning without her.  When she brings that up you can remind her that she wasn't very pleasant in the past about it and you didn't want to plan your wedding like that.  Also another eye opener for her, I hope.  She is missing one of the best things about being a mom and she doesnt' seem to realize it.  Kind of like cutting off your nose to spite your face.

CowgirlK39

You asked for stories, so I'll givce ya mine.

My mom basically wanted the whole wedding planned last month. She was out of her mind that I didnt have every single thing booked, ordered and ready for our wedding next fall. She also has the tendancy to say rude things to people about my wedding, since she doesnt grasp the concept of themed weddings. Her brain is still in the early 90s, since thats the last time she went to a wedding. I've told her many times to please watch how she says things, because they come out sounding really crappy. We looked at our ceremony site and she told the lady who lives there "Well, she just couldn't get married in a church.." That made me sound like a whore or a heretic or something.

divadancer11

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[QUOTE]You asked for stories, so I'll givce ya mine. My mom basically wanted the whole wedding planned last month. She was out of her mind that I didnt have every single thing booked, ordered and ready for our wedding next fall. She also has the tendancy to say rude things to people about my wedding, <strong>since she doesnt grasp the concept of themed weddings. Her brain is still in the early 90s, since thats the last time she went to a wedding</strong>. I've told her many times to please watch how she says things, because they come out sounding really crappy. We looked at our ceremony site and she told the lady who lives there "Well, she just couldn't get married in a church.." That made me sound like a whore or a heretic or something.
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OMG so true however with my mom its the 80's as that is where she stood up in 9 weddings......when discussing options for centerpieces she brought up doylies (spelling?)......smh

Then you have my granny who is only concerned about a damn sweet table....and thinks that us putting trays of mini pasteries at each table is tacky!!!! Well I am not going to pay $2500 for a sweet table for only maybe 30-40pp out of the 220 to eat from.....she is not happy with it however too bad!

Meghannsix

You girls make me happy that my mom is completely uninterested! 

cinbene

UGH!  Mine is making this whole thing so unplesant for me.  She doesnt like to drive, nor does she like to ride passenger, for very long at all.  We are looking at a home about 35 minutes from where I live now (near her) also the reception hall Im looking at is about 30 min. away, she is very unhappy about that, she thinks it should be in my area.  My fiance and I are trying to be fair and do things around the halfway point, between our families.  She is putting so much stress on me, it is making me be not so nice to my fiance.  This whole things has not been enjoyable at all!  She has to stop!