Bridesmaids dilema...

cmromano85

So I am having a hard time deciding on my bridesmaids.  Since day one I knew I wanted my sisters, fiance's sisters, and several friends in the wedding, but my mom but my mom is having serious issues with it and does not want me to have any friends in it.

She says having more than just my sisters and my finace's sisters, is way too many bridesmaids.  I've been back and forth with her about it - I really want my friends in it ALONG with sisters, but my mom claims I would be making a "HUGE mistake" if I did this.  Apparently she thinks there will be alot of drama and sisters will feel left out.  I have listened intenly to everyone's opinions at this point.  But my gut keeps telling me I still want friends included...they are like a second family to me.

What do I do? Please my mom so her and my family are happy? Or please myself but really piss off my whole family? 

JaxInBlue

So you have a while (if your planner is accurate) before you should ask anyone to be in your bridal party.  It's best to do that 6-9 months before your wedding.  This gives you a lot of time to decide what you want.  I'd talk to your FI and come to decision together.  I don't think you need to give you mom any say in who is in your bridal party unless she is paying for their attire. 

For now, you can continue to thank her for her opinion, but let her know you won't be making a final decision until closer to the wedding.

redheadtmk

what retread said. Why would your sisters be upset by having friends in your wedding? obviously they are aware that you have close friends....it shouldnt have any affect on the bond you have with your sisters. being a bridesmaid isnt a conest to prove who is closest to the bride. its about having your nearest and dearest stand up with you.

jmichlik

Every wedding I've been to has had both friends and family in the wedding party, and I don't recall ever hearing comments that anyone felt upset about this in any way. No one, family or friends, gets an automatic "in" to the bridal party - it should be whoever is closest to the bride and groom.

kaitlyn&henry

Dont let people bully you into who you choose...i let it happen and really regret not asking my closest friend to be in the wedding. Its ultimately your choice who stands by you, no one elses. Just because your family doesnt mean you automatically have a spot in the BP....