My friend and I have been very close since high school and last May when she got married I was her MOH. Well now that I am going to get married she assumed that she would be in my bridal party, she didny even ask me if I wanted her in the WP (I haven't even asked the rest of the girls I picked yet!) Anyways, the other day when we were on the phone she said that by the time the FI and I were get married she wanted to be 8 or 9 month pregnant. She took me by surpise! I have to admit that I am very happy for her!
But ... Im afraid that in the end she will backing out and say that she can't handle it. I told her that I could instead make her my PA and she got very very offended. She said the following " Karina, seriously?!?I made you my MOH and you're going to knock my down to a PA?!? I am really hurt."
I told her my concers and she said she would be fine that she could handle it. That there was no reason for me to be worried. I feel forced to have in the WP. I feel like a pushover!
During her wedding time she fought me about everything. She wanted my opinion and I would give it to her and she would be mad if I didn't agree with her. On the night before her wedding she took all ( and this is NOT an OVEREACTION) of my belongings and put them in the trash because I didn't arrive to her house fast enough. The day of the wedding I was not allowed to go near her only her PA's were. And I couldn't go near my FI because it was taking away from her shine.I am not trying to get even with her I am just trying to think of whats best for everyone.
Please tell me Im not going crazy here!
Am I wrong or should I suck it up and be unhappy for feeling forced to have as a BM?? Any help would be nice. What would you do???
(Sorry this is sooo long)