Mom has problem with 2 MOH

JD71114

I have chosen 2 MOH: sister and BF.  My fiance has two BM: two friends.  After excitedly dissucssing details with my mother, she freaked out as if its a slap in the face to my sister to have 2 MOH.  She even went as far as to talk down about my friendship with my best friend to support her case.  This has be riding on her shoulders and is driving her crazy but I don't feel I should have to make decisions based on anyone else's wants or desires. 

Am I being unreasonable?  Should I have just one MOH or should I stand my ground?

misssunshine17

Stand your ground. If you mother is like, she's probably just a little old fashioned. 

Maggie0829

Don't listen to your Mother.  She is being ridiculous and unreasonable.  Keep your wedding party as is.  She will learn to live with the fact that you have two MOHs.

AddieCake

How ridiculous. I had 2 MOHs as well. Or 2 bridesmaids. Since they all do the same thing, it is only a matter of perspective! It takes nothing away from your sister to have to "share" the honor of being THE CHOSEN ONE. 

MairePoppy

A recent MOB, here. Your mother doesn't get to choose your wedding party. Having two MsOH does not diminish the role of either your sister or your friend. Tell your mom that you have chosen your wedding party and you are not going to listen to her insulting remarks about your best friend.

Fancypantsamy

Think about how much it would hurt your Best Friend if you asked her to just be a bridesmaid instead of MOH like you originally asked. Your mom will get over it. My mom was all bugged because I told my wedding party to choose any pair of dressy beige shoes and she was concerned they wouldn't match and would look silly and that I better specify the shade of beige (wtf?) and got upset when my two MOHs bought the same pair but one of the bridesmaids was wearing a pair of beige shoes she already owned. 

When the wedding rolled around she was totally over it and at the point where she was talking about how nice it was that I was easy going about the shoes. It will be fine. 

Jager1219

Gotta love mom's.  My mom was very concerned about having an odd number of BMs because I wouldn't be centered in the photos.  I just told her she's nuts and that was that.

getaclue44

My mom freaked because my sister was not my MOH.  She literally tried to get my dad to change my mind...silly her because my dad agreed with me.  It took a few months but she got over it.

melb2013

What a weird thing to be upset about.  Why would she care?  I think you should show her this thread just so she can see how silly she's being.

erinlin25

stand your ground!  Mom doesn't get to pick your bridesmaids even if she is paying for the wedding.  That is your choice!!  My mom got on my case because I'm not having a MOH-- I have 5 bridesmaid and could no way pick between my 3 best friends, so they are acting like my "MOH" but nobody needs a special title.  Your wedding will happen either way.  Mom whined about it for a few weeks; she will get over it.  I think moms just have too traditional of ideas sometimes and are not used to things being done differently.  She will see that having 2 MOH will in no mean anything different to you getting married. 

JD71114

Thank you so much for your input!  I WILL be having both MOH