I am standing in a wedding in October and so is my future husband. I requested to the Bride that I not walk with him because I would rather save that for my Wedding! She snapped at me and said this is how it's going to be if you don't like it he doesn't have to be in the wedding. I have no idea what to tell her and I have no idea why she would want to punish him because of my request. I am thinking about not standing in the wedding. What is your advise?
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This will not be a substitute for your wedding. I guarantee walking arm in arm with your FI down an aisle won't make your wedding recessional any less special.
But once again, is this really that important that the two of you would ruin a friendship over it?
Maybe your friend is just stressed from planning and she was dealing with several other issues when you made your request. She shouldn't have snapped at you, but be understanding of the fact that she's probably stressed. Your understanding and your friendship is why she wants you to stand up there with her in the first place. Don't cause her more worry now when she needs you.
[QUOTE]So a walk down an aribitrary aisle is goin to ruin your wedding day? You're willing to lose a friendship over this? Ridiculous.
Posted by Cynthia1207[/QUOTE]
Exactly my thoughts...this is just silly
[QUOTE]I think both you and your friend are being silly. I would have assumed that you would prefer to be paired with your fi and don't really understand your reasoning. But since you've told the bride how you feel she should honor your request. But once again, is this really that important that the two of you would ruin a friendship over it?
Posted by MairePoppy[/QUOTE]
<div>Ditto.</div>
Walking together in someone else's wedding in NO WAY impacts YOUR wedding. I think you're being silly, and I think it's very, very, very sad that you'd be willing to ruin a friendship over a 20 second walk.
But gee....good luck to you.
[QUOTE]I am standing in a wedding in October and so is my future husband. I requested to the Bride that I not walk with him because I would rather save that for my Wedding! She snapped at me and said this is how it's going to be if you don't like it he doesn't have to be in the wedding. I have no idea what to tell her and I have no idea why she would want to punish him because of my request. I am thinking about not standing in the wedding. What is your advise?
Posted by meredithd21[/QUOTE]
JIC
[QUOTE]You are so completely overthinking this. Have you and your FI never gone to a church service, a theater production, a concert where you've down an aisle to your seats together? Walking together in someone else's wedding in NO WAY impacts YOUR wedding. I think you're being silly, and I think it's very, very, very sad that you'd be willing to ruin a friendship over a 20 second walk. But gee....good luck to you.
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]
Exactly. I'm dumbfounded that you would think this is a problem. I've walked down aisles in weddings with my husband (future at the time), my brother, my best friend's fiance, another woman, and a 12 year old boy. In all of them I was wearing an ugly bridesmaids dress that I was assured I would absolutely be able to wear again. None of these impacted how I felt on my wedding day. It's not YOUR day, it's hers. Find something else to obssess over, this is not worth your time!