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aras8609

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In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_grooms-family-stresses-me-out?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:d6ed7f2c-8972-4f6b-8976-e55f8632c60fPost:5a2ab312-9f88-470b-b437-7e17ff8da688">Grooms family stresses me out...</a>:
[QUOTE]I know that so many of y'all have posted about how your MIL is driving you nuts or your BMs are horrible, etc etc. This is just my little rant.. I'd just like some extra love and some hey I hear that kinda thing.. Please no judging... My fiance's family always makes me a little crazy. They're really overly involved in each other's lives and I just feel like they're subtley trying to take over this wedding and make it all about them!  Originally, my plan was to go to a salon and pay for the girls to get their hair done the day of. I thought it'd be a nice outing with them, but now my fiance's sister (also a bridesmaid) is saying she wants to get her makeup done, too, and that my FMIL wants to get her hair and makeup done... and it's all stuff that I feel like I don't have the time or energy to deal with scheduling and figuring it all out with them. Plus, my BM (my fiance's sister) tried to tell me that she thinks that the idea of nude colored shoes I picked out and already told evryon for their purple dress won't look good and tried to convince me to change it to silver... GRR. I'm an anxious person to begin with and this is driving me nuts. <strong>What's worse is that I really don't know if I can talk about it with my Fi because we've had so many issues, already, in the past about me and his family clashing aka they drive me crazy.</strong> SO. I'm just feeling overwhelmed (I'm in the process of graduating from a master's program, travelling everywhere for job interviews, and long distance planning this wedding).
Posted by aras8609[/QUOTE]

I'm sure this problem will disappear once you both say "I do."

Also, if you're requiring a certain shoe, you need to pay for it.

Maggie0829

You were quoted so deleting your OP doesn't help.

If all you told them was a shoe color then they can get whatever shoe they would like (any style) and you don't have to pay for them.  But, if you are requiring a specific shoe (such as, this exact pump by this designer then yes, you have to pay for it.  As for her not liking the shoe choice or thinking it won't go...tell her "thanks for your opinion but i like my choice."

If your BM wants to get her makeup done then she needs to schedule that herself.  If your FMIL wants to get her hair done then she needs to schedule that herself.  All you need to worry about is your BMs hair since you are paying for that...anything else they want to have done they can schedule themselves.

But the biggest issue here is what was pointed out by PP.  Your FI and you having issues due to his family will not go away once you are married...in fact they will only get worse because you will now be a memeber of his family.

Honestly, the things you listed really shouldn't be driving you crazy because they are little, insignificant things.