I've got an interesting situation-a Mother who doesn't care for weddings, wedding planning or any of the celebrations that come with a wedding.
She's been a "tough love" mother my whole life. I knew growing up that even though she makes good money, my fiance and I would be the ones paying for the wedding. I got engaged in December 2012 and she offered me 1K to elope. That's not what I want and told her so-I did thank her for the offer and suggested maybe she could help me out with picking and perhaps contributing the 1K to buying my wedding dress. She'll "think about it."
I talked to her yesterday and she's critized me for inviting her family, family friends that she doesn't know but I've known for years and love dearly, and also about even HAVING a wedding. She is not going to throw us an engagement party because...it's just not her "thing." She loves throwing parties. She's just not interested in wedding related parties. She's not going to help with the bridal shower, she is not even interested in coming with me to go dress shopping.
I understand she's concerned about becoming involved when she's not picking up the bill and how that's perceived by others, but at the end of the day, if a daughter wants her mom's support, shouldn't her mom be able to put aside her frustrations and be there when she's needed?
I've tried to express to her how important it is to me that she not critique every thing about my wedding and also how much I'd love her to come with me to just ONE boutique when the time comes to try on dresses.
Am i wrong? Should I just let her be and go dress shopping by myself? Should I take her out of the wedding and just have her be a guest like everyone else? I don't know how to get her interested and I don't want to be fighting with her until the day comes...in August of 2014.