My mother is making me absolutely INSANE! She hasn't listened to a word of what we want, she keeps suggesting that we go back to the venue we canceled because it was way too expensive for us. She doesn't seem to understand that she already had her wedding. While my parents are paying for the wedding, it's not a blank check. We are trying to stick to our budget, but all my mom wants to see is some grand and elaborate wedding. I even overheard her bitching to her friends that she "feels taken advantage of" because we canceld the venue SHE was in love with (she has no idea i heard this). She was going to give us the money one way or another so why is it such a big deal how we spend it. My fiance and I are not big elaborate people. Yes, we want everyone to have a good time and a beautiful spot to get married, but thi sevent doesn't define us. My dad even wants us to go light on the wedding and spend the rest on our honeymoon. I really could use some advice on how to deal with her. I'm so upset I'm about to start crying and just elope.