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MOB/Shower Question

jrevakjrevak
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I'm the MOH for my best friend (basically my sister). The MOB told me the other day that she was going to host the shower but since it's "tradition" she is going to list myself and the BMs as hostesses and not herself. Granted this is for their only daughter/child so they want to pay for EVERYTHING but I think if she is paying than she should be listed as the host! Of course we will all help out with whatever she needs... but she shouldn't feel obligated to pay just to help the rest of us out and she shouldn't take a "Back seat" in the event if she's organizing it!  The shower isn't for several months so we have time to figure it out. I just don't want this to become an issue later. And the MOB is like my second mom so I feel comfortable telling her what I think. Suggestions on how to address this? Should I just let it go?
Thanks!
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  • hlq2011hlq2011
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    edited December 2011
    Totally okay for her to list herself as the host.  That restriction, that mothers shouldn't host, is mostly dead and gone (though still alive in some regions).

    Tell her so.  And if she doesn't believe you, have her come on here or on Etiquette and ask if it's okay for her to host her daughter's shower.  We'll say yes :)
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  • Jennifer102011Jennifer102011
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    edited December 2011
    Tell it is perfectly fine for her to host it, like PP the restriction is almost dead and gone. My mom and MOH are co-hosting mine. 
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  • ADTonkADTonk
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    edited December 2011
    If you're cohosting, you can say "Hosted by the Mother of the Bride and bridesmaids" or something like that.
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    edited December 2011
    There could be people in the MOB's circle of friends and family that still hold to that old tradition. Since you and the other bms are willing to help out, I don't see a problem with listing yourselves as cohosts. And if you could possibly accept the RSVPs, I'm sure she would appreciate that.

                       
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  • brownbagkassiebrownbagkassie
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    edited December 2011
    Why not just let the MOB host the shower and MOH and assisting bridemaids have a bachelorette party with the hostess credits going towards the bride for her honeymoon. www.brownbagparty.com/20600
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
    Moderator Knottie Warrior 5000 Comments 500 Love Its
    edited December 2011
    @brownbagkassie- because it's very tacky to allow a commission earning consultant to pressure guests into purchasing over priced merchandise for the bride, while she looks on.
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