A quick run-down of my maids, just so you understand the situation.
MOH- my 24 yr old sister, acts much older than her years
1 BM- my FI's 16 yr old sister
3 BMs from my hometown- longtime friends, loud, crazy
3 BMs from my christian college- my roommates, silly, fun, don't drink due to school rules and some by personal preferrence.
Here's the issue:
My MOH is planning on throwing my shower and my bachelorette party for me, but my 3 BMs from my hometown all have a very different idea of what a fun party is than what my MOH does. My friends from college are from all over the state, and have already told me they plan to have a party for me while school is in session so we're all already together.
My original thought was to have my MOH's bachelorette party be the one where all my BM's come, even my FI's sister, because I know it'll be relatively under control. Then, I figured I could just do a seperate party without the siblings so that all us girls could have fun together. However, my BMs from home have made it clear to me that they "don't trust my party in the hands of my school friends or my sister." I'm hurt that they feel this way. I understand not feeling comfortable letting their guard down in front of my sister, but the other girls are tons of fun, too! That's why I'm friends with them! But I don't want to force them to collaborate into one party if anyone is going to feel judged or uncomfortable, since that would just put a damper on the whole party.
Now that I'm done venting, I guess my question is if multiple parties are a common occurance, like showers are? And should I just let my friends all do their separate showers to keep things comfortable, or try to get them to see the best in the others, and run the risk of an awkward night?