This post is not by any means being disrespectful to my In-Laws, because I think they are wonderful people and they really mean well, and I think sometimes our emotions get the best of us. I would like some advice on how I am supposed to act or what I'm supposed to say if this happens again. The hidden issue behind the words that she said is that she's mad that she's not able to have nice things, and be able to contribute to the wedding since they filed for bankruptcy. But what came out was this instead, " Just because your parents are rich and they get whatever they want and they give you everything you want, doesn't mean you deserve it!"
I was stunned. I didn't know how to respond because I could she was hurt. They made some really bad financial choices in life, and racked up tons of debt and now they are dealing with it. My fiance told me not to take it personally, and that she was talking out of anger with herself, and not me or my family. I'm afraid though that they'll be another breakdown and I'm nervous to be around her now. What should I say if she does this again?