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Bridesmaids Dress Dilemma

Hi Everyone,
I've got a it of a BM dress issue that I need some insight on. I have five bridesmaids spread out across the east coast, so selecting a dress has been a bit difficult, and the wedding is 6 motnhs away, so the pressure is sort of on. I went shopping with three of the girls at David's Bridal, and I decided that I liked  a specific fabric style knee length dresses. There are about 5 in the same length and fabric of them with varying necklines (strapless, thick straps, etc.) and two different styles of skirt. 

Four of the girls really like the same dress out of the five, though my MOH and another BM said they had second choices if I decided to let the girls just pick from the five dresses so that there wouldn't be like, one girl in a different dress than the other four.

My fifth BM is slightly picky about what she wears, so we're going to go try on dresses this weekend and then I'll make the final say - if she likes the dress the other four like, then they will all just get it, and if she doesn't she'll pick one of the other four in the same fabric and color and MOH and other BM will also go with second choices. 

I guess I'm just worried she'll want something that isn't in the same fabric - she keeps emphasizing how she really wants to make sure she looks good and wants to be able to wear it again since she's buying it. All well and good, but I'd like some level of uniformity and I don't want to go back to the drawing board about this six months out. 

So basically my question is, am I being flexible enough giving her the five dress options? I want her to feel good and all, but it's hard to dress this many people and I'm really busy at work and don't have time to reinvent the BM dress wheel. 
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Re: Bridesmaids Dress Dilemma

  • Oh, and I hope I don't sound down on my BM. She's awesome and I really want to make sure this is fun for her. I'm just stressed I guess. 
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  • I am basically doing the same thing except they are picking fabric. As long as you are meeting her concerns with regards to money, you are fine. She just might need to suck it up for a day. I know I had to for a couple of weddings I was in.
  • I think you are being flexible enough when it comes to the number of choices you have given and the fact that the dress has two different style skirts and numerous neckline choices.  I think it is perfectly ok to tell your BMs that these are the five choices that you have decided on and to have them pick their favorite of the five.

    It is perfectly fine to set parameters when it comes to BM dresses.  I think you are being flexible enough to allow the BMs to be comfortable and feel good in what they are wearing while still keeping some type of uniformity.

    I hope all goes well with your one BM.

  • I think you are being perfectly accomodating. They should be able to pick from 5 dresses and find something they are comfortable in.

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