Hi, I've never written anything on this chat board, but i see all the great advice people get and was wondering if i could get some help. My FMIL has decided to throw me a shower. (I am appreciative) But my fiance and i were just planning on having a Jack & Jill (for those who dont know what that is, its basically like a party with raffle prizes which you hopefully make money off of) and not doing anything else. My six bridesmaids have all volunteered to make baskets for the raffle prizes, which is more than enough and not only that i heard from my maid of honor that all of them wanted to throw me a bridal shower seperate from my FMILs. I am so greatful that i have great friends, but my FMIL calls me checking up asking what my bridesmaids have done and if there planning to attend her shower, why my bridesmaids havent called her back.
I dont want to be the middle person going around to my bridesmaid asking why they havent done something. I know they have seperate lives from me and some have way more going on in their life than me and i respect that. i told my FMIL that I wasnt going to press the issue with them and if they can make it the shower then great, if not...no big deal. After this my FMIL told me that she was trying to keep her opinion to herself but she doesnt think anyone of them deserves to stand beside me if there not going to helpful. I am so confused on what to do. My FMIL became even more upset when she found out the bridal shower my sister is throwing me (for my side of the family) will be donations only to my favorite charity NO GIFTS. Now my FMIL has been asking for my side of the list so she can invite them to her Bridal shower so i can get a gift from them. I DONT want that!! And before i heard that i was going to specifically tell my bridesmaids no giving me gifts. I feel like we are all under the microscope!!! Sorry didnt expect it to be this long. I feel better getting this out Thanks