MOB Role...any unique ideas?

tammythetiger

In my brother's Catholic wedding years ago, my mom was asked to be a reader.  For some reason, she now thinks this is the "mother's role" and has expectations to do this in my wedding.  However, I see her role as the MOB to be special in itself and I would like to have other friends/families be readers.  Also, at our church , we cannot have a unity candle in which mothers often participate.  

So I'm looking for any creative ways or special duties for moms outside of traditional MOB duties.  I love my mom but she's not reading...and I was trying to think of other ways to involve her in the ceremony than just being ushered in and sitting down.

MairePoppy

I'm an MOB who agrees with you. I look forward to walking down the aisle, escorted by one of my sons, right before the procession starts. I can't think of a greater honor than watching my daughter walk down the aisle on her Dad's arm.

That being said, I have been to many Catholic wedding where the MOB and MOG were the readers, so I can see where your mom might have gotten the idea. But you get to choose your readers.

You could ask both your parents to walk you down the aisle. If you are having a full mass, the two mothers could bring the gifts (bread and wine) to the altar for Eucharist. Or you could ask your mom to say grace before the meal.



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MairePoppy

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_mob-roleany-unique-ideas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:f21ce211-4bd3-4c22-9a4c-248af5745856Post:cfccf068-1ba2-42e1-920e-ba881ac602b0">Re: MOB Role...any unique ideas?</a>:
[QUOTE]Have her walk you with your dad. The "dad gives the bride away" is a sexist thing anyway.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

The dad doesn't 'give the bride away' in a Catholic wedding. The bride and groom marry of their own free will, which is a requirement for a valid Catholic marriage. But in a bow to tradition, the father and sometimes the mother, often escorts his daughter down the aisle.

banana468

Ditto Maire.  My father escorted me down the aisle.  I'd lived on my own for years and I am my own person.  I'm no one's property to give away but I did like that he walked me down the aisle.

I'd ask that your mother be escorted down the aisle.  Perhaps insted of doing a reading you can ask that the mothers bring up the gifts?

FWIW, when I see people invent things for the mom to do it just doesn't seem to work out well.

AutumnFair

What about giving her and your FMIL roses during the ceremony? This is starting to become quiet popular as an honor to the parents. 

JessicaCrystalGailAmerson

When u walk down the aisle take a flower from ur bouquet and hand it to ur mom and soon to be step mom. its a nice way to recognize moms and show them u love them and are glad for all thier support in a little way.

MairePoppy

Retread- I didn't intend to offend you. The reason I quoted you was because I wanted to comment specifically to the 'giving away' remark.

While I understand your point, I do not agree with it. The bride may choose to be escorted by one, both or neither of her parents. It has nothing to do with sexism- toward the daughter or the mother. Picking the Dad to walk does not devalue the daughter's relationship with her mother. She may choose to honor her mother in a different way or it may be the mother's choice to enjoy the procession from the pews.