Throughout my relationship with my FH, his family has welcomed me in a way I'm not used to and not how I would have liked. They never really seem too excited to see me, I guess. He proposed in Disney World and when they picked us up from the airport, the first thing out of their mouths were, "We already have the wedding planned!" It kinda through me off and I kinda got a little annoyed. I've barely been engaged for a few days and your saying you have it planned!?! Then when we set the date (10/11/12) we picked it obviously for the date, not realizing its everyone's birthday (I litteraly have 7 friends with that birthday). Most significantly its one of my BM's and his sister. His sister through a hissy fit and demanded we change the date or she wouldn't come. We talked her down and changed her mind. Then when I chose my MOH and BM's, I did not ask his sister because we are not necessarily close and she is always getting on my last nerve. She is now resenting that fact and making my BM's uncomfortable. She won't however tell me she has a problem with it. She is now trying to suggest really horrible ideas, that I don't like and I don't know a nice way of saying no. I know this sounds mean and rude, but she's driving everyone crazy.