Gift for my son

brego

I'm the MOG at an upcoming wedding, and I'm not entirely sure what to get my son and his wife-to-be. I've looked at the etiquette, but I've been told everything from the rehearsal is my gift to give a token gift to give a normal gift.

A lot of the things that I would have given have already gone from the registry while I was away without internet–I would have given, say, all of their wine glasses, but now someone has bought half of the wine glasses and half of the crystal water glasses. I want my son to be able to think "My mom bought me this," instead of, "My mom bought me half of this."

Any ideas as to what I could give? I'm racking my brain for heirloom-type gifts, but not thinking of any. Would it be appropriate to get something not on the registry but from the same crystal/china line? Anything else I could give?

MairePoppy

I think it would be fine to buy an item that goes with the china or crystal.  A gift registry is just a list of suggestions. No one is ever obligated to purchase a gift from the registry.

Like you, my mother is wracking her brain trying to come up with an heirloom type of gift for my daughter and her fi. I have suggested that she buy a pair of champagne flutes to match the wine glasses that are on my daughter's registry. They will have the champagne glasses to toast their future anniversaries and special occassions.

EK2013

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[QUOTE]I'm the MOG at an upcoming wedding, and I'm not entirely sure what to get my son and his wife-to-be. I've looked at the etiquette, but I've been told everything from the rehearsal is my gift to give a token gift to give a normal gift. A lot of the things that I would have given have already gone from the registry while I was away without internet–I would have given, say, all of their wine glasses, but now someone has bought half of the wine glasses and half of the crystal water glasses. I want my son to be able to think "My mom bought me this," instead of, "My mom bought me half of this." Any ideas as to what I could give? I'm racking my brain for heirloom-type gifts, but not thinking of any. Would it be appropriate to get something not on the registry but from the same crystal/china line? Anything else I could give?
Posted by brego[/QUOTE]

<div>I think it would be very appropriate to get something from the same crystal/china line, particularly if it were something that you knew the couple would be likely to get a lot of use out of but just didn't think to register for.</div>

brego

I really like the idea of champagne flutes for their wedding toast. Any other creative ideas? Iwould really like something that they would keep through the years and remember that it was from their parents.

I appreciate all your input!

Kate61487

Just wanted to put in my two cents that even if you do several smaller gifts off the registry your son and his wife will still think of you when they use it. 

MIL was ridiculously generous with us (H is her only child and she always is very generous, so I guess I should have seen it coming, ha!)  She did host the RD, which was lovely.  She also got us a serving platter for our china along with a set of our sheets and our knife set; all off the registry, for my shower.  And at the wedding she gave us a sizeable check which rather shocked me, after she'd done so much for us already.

The point is, whatever you get they'll appreciate.  Even if it's half of a wine glass set AND half of a crystal water glass set :-).  As for something that matches their china but they didn't actually register for:  some of my favorite gifts were off registry purchases. Just consider if it's a particularly large item where they'll put it - I know that's something we seriously considered as we were registering.

BubbsNBubbs

You could have a quilt made for them in their wedding colors.

brego

Just found out from the bride's parents that they are not doing a champagne toast so the flutes are out. they are using their great grandmother's cake cutting set for the wedding cake so that idea is out as well. 

Any other thoughts? I know I can order china or stemware if I am stuck but still looking for something more personal.

MairePoppy

What about some kind of serving piece or candle holders to go with their china or flatware? Or a memento from your home. I have my MILs bean crock, pie server and gravy boat. They are used every Thanksgiving and Christmas and many other family gatherings. I like holiday related items, they get less wear and tear and fewer chances of breaking.

You could have some fine line napkins monogrammed, if your FDIL will be changing her name. That would be a nice way for you to welcome her into the family.

You could give your son a personal gift. I bought my daughter a pearl pendant and earrings. I was careful to choose something that she could wear often, just in case my FSIL decided to buy jewelry for her wedding day. Would your son like nice cuff links or a watch?

I'm sure they will love whatever you give them.

courtneyconger

Could you  improve upon something they already have to make it more special?  For instance, my FMIL is having several of FI's wall posters framed.  He loves these vintage movie posters but they keep getting more and more beat up with time.  Once they're framed we'll hang them up more prominently as the frames will hide some of the damage around the edges. 
FMIL also crocheted a blanket for me in my (and FI's) favorite color.  It was originally made for my twin bed, but now she's expanding it so we can use it for the queen bed we'll be getting when we move in together. 

Can you think of anything they already have that you can compliment in a special way?