My Mom doesn't live in the same town as me, she lives several hours away. She doesn't put much interest into my wedding. They don't have a lot of money and she is always telling me on the phone that she feels like a "loser" for not being able to contribute to the wedding. My FI and I have told her numerous times that we don't care if she gives us any money, we just want her to be a part of it.
Whenever I talk to my mom on the phone, it turns into a huge fight. She constantly picks apart the things I tell her and honestly I can't even stand talking about the wedding to her.
I don't really know what to do anymore. My wedding isn't in our state and my mom keeps saying, "I don't know if I will have the money to go." We have been engaged for a year now and our wedding is this summer. It makes me really sad that she hasn't even attempted to save any money to go to the wedding.
Here is a little background information in case you need it. My mom never comes to where I live, she expects me to drive the several hours to her house to visit her (she is the one who moved away). When I do visit, she constantly has other people (her friends) over drinking and partying instead of spending time with me or my FI.
If I didn't have such an awesome Dad (my parents are divorced) I don't know what I would do!