Advice please- my BF cancelled her wedding- what can I do to help!?

cmath610

My best friend just cancelled her wedding and I was wondering if anyone else has been in this situation and has any advice on what I could do to help. I want to do everything and anything I can to help her and be there for her because I know how hard this must be when her wedding was supposed to be in three months. We live a few hours away so any advice on how I can be there for her without living near her would be so wonderful.

Basically, I'm really hoping someone may have advice on how I should approach the situation without being too annoying and overbearing but also so that she really knows and understands that I will do anything to help her and be there for her during all of this.

Really, any advice would help because I just don't know what to do.

Thank you!

PS. I know enough not to bash the other party or do the whole "i never liked him anyway" stuff.  I just want to know some honest advice on how I can help her through this.

cmath610

They actually cancelled the wedding/broke-up.  

kmmssg

You soiund like a great friend.  Call her, let her know you love her.  Keep in touch without hovering - let her guide what she needs.  Send her a funny card every know and then to let her know you are thinking of her.  Is a girls weekend possible sometime in the future?

AdeleDazeem

oh no!  You are a good friend for wanting to be there for her.

I'd call to talk.  Don't call and be like "So, how's the broken wedding thing going for you?"  every single time, but let her know that you're willing to listen whenever she is ready to talk.  She might have a loooot to say.

I'd also offer to do anything wedding related that might seem too overwhelming for her.  Help send out the announcements about the cancelled wedding.  Help return any gifts she might have received before the wedding.  I also wouldn't want to look at my dress or any DIY projects that might lying around so you could always offer to pick those things up for her.  I know she's a few hours away, but I don't know how often you go there, etc.

I would also recommend going to see her and doing something FUN.  Go to an amusement park.  Go to a bar.  But, just do something that will take her mind off everything.

Best of luck to you and your friend!

expats14

Spontaneous loving cards are always fun. More people could do with sweet friends like you.

Muffin'sMom

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[QUOTE]Spontaneous loving cards are always fun. :) More people could do with sweet friends like you. :)
Posted by expats14[/QUOTE]

Lots of excellent answers above.  Tell her you love her.  Listen but don't give advice...most people just want to be heard.  Invite her for a visit...getting away might be a good thing!

cmath610

Thanks for all the advice! It was tremendously helpful. She is definitely doing a lot better since she realizes she made the right decision and she has had so many people supporting her since she told people about the wedding being cancelled. 

I offered to take her somewhere the weekend that would have been her wedding. In fact, I decided to actually make it a suprise girls weekend for her by inviting all of our other close friends. I thought she might feel better with more of us around supporting her and making it a fun trip away from everything that weekend. Thank you again for your advice!!