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April 2012 Weddings

How to deal with a BIA

So i am in a situation where I have to be friends with my Fiance's bestfriend's wife. His best friend is one of our groomsmen. So pretty much every time the guys hang out, we are pretty much around each other or always go to social functions. And on top of that, her and I work together and so we see each other a lot.

I feel like she is always criticizing me and puts down my wedding ideas. Recently she went overboard by telling me that even though my wedding will be in the Spring, i shouldn't have short or tea length bridesmaids dresses because some of the girls have thick legs and it might be a distraction away from me, the bride. She said in her opinion floor length is more formal and appealing. I went off the deep end because i was very insulted and basically feel like she called my bridesmaids fat. I feel like appearances are all that matter with her and that was very shallow. I don't think my guests will be judging my friends legs. I am so mad she said this.

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Re: How to deal with a BIA

  • HOW RUDE!  What a jerk! 

    I'm such a jerk I would say something super rude back to her.  -- If she is tiny I would have said, well thick legs are sexy I think it will make the dresses look good.  You have skinny legs, but I think that looks sickly. HOW RUDE AND BUT OUT!
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    Just don't talk wedding stuff with her anymore. If she insists on throwing out her opinions that you don't want, just bite your tongue, smile, and say thanks for her suggestion but you've already decided on whatever she is criticizing. What a peach!
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_april-2012-weddings_deal-bia?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:05427f07-4ba2-44d6-9271-99a7af1ee5c0Discussion:2f36fc92-7bce-4c29-8afc-8595699de45bPost:5557d3b3-4dd0-49e1-9efd-cac0b6a6ed70">Re: How to deal with a BIA</a>:
    [QUOTE]HOW RUDE!  What a jerk!  I'm such a jerk I would say something super rude back to her.  -- If she is tiny I would have said, well thick legs are sexy I think it will make the dresses look good.  You have skinny legs, but I think that looks sickly. HOW RUDE AND BUT OUT!
    Posted by XxMari518xX[/QUOTE]

    lmao!  yeah she deserves that! lol
    My moh said the exact same thing to me... well actually she used the excuse of elegance, but since i know her so well I know she just doesnt want to wear a short dress because of her legs.. but you know what, is my wedding and im already letting them have different styles, but the lenght is important to me and i really want short dresses, besides the ceremony is at 2pm and reception at 4pm and in april!  i think it is appropriate
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  • That is extremely rude.  It is so amazing what some people saw with wedding advice.  Every wedding is different and how the bride and groom want it.  It isn't her wedding! I would just try to avoid talking anything wedding related around her.  And I am doing knee length dresses for my BM's who are all shapes and sizes. I think it is fine.
  • Thanks that is how i feel too!  Our ceremony is at 2 p.m. and the rehearsal is at 6 p.m. but it is Spring and I want some sexy legs to show!
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