bridesmaids refusing to wear makeup

junwes

Hello everyone
I have 6 bridesmaid 4 of them are willing to pay $50.00 for there makeup, the other 2 doesn't want to. Can and should I make it mandatory that they get there makeup done?

Athsea

You cannot force someone to pay to have someone else touch their face. 

If you require makeup/ hair to be professionally done, you should pay for it, and even then, you cannot force your bridesmaids to do it. I personally let no one touch my face but myself. Let them do their own makeup if they choose. Presumably, you asked them because they're your nearest and dearest, not because you need props for pictures.  

For the record, one of my bridesmaids doesn't wear makeup at all, and I'm not going to force her just for my wedding. I'll be lucky if she even wears shoes...

freebread03

Ditto the PP.  If you are requiring them to get their makeup done, then you need to pay for it.  And if they just don't want to wear makeup, you really can't force them.  People will be focused on you-not what your bridesmaids look like.

GoodLuckBear14

Are they refusing to wear makeup or refusing to pay to have it professionally done?

JoanE2012

Why would you want to make it mandatory that your BM get their makeup done?  Why can't they do it themselves?  If anyone forced anything upon me, I'd be out!

HobokensFury

You're being ridiculous. You can't force someone to pay to get their makeup done.

calliopeia2013

You...could make it mandatory if you think them wearing professionally done makeup in your wedding is more important than your friendship.  Please take a step back and think about your priorities.

MiksChick23

$50 is a lot of money to some people. I paid $15. I agree with PP. You cannot force it. You can request it and pay for it, but if they don't want to, they don't have to! Why not let them do it themselves? All of my girls did their own make-up and they looked great!

junwes

I don't want to force anyone to do makeup. But I have other friends who got married that told me that I need to make it mandatory. I personally don't care if they don't want to wear makeup or jewelry. I respect people choices.

freebread03

So, if you want to make it mandatory, then pay for it.  It's really that simple.

Wait, so you don't care, but you want to make it mandatory because one of your friends told you to do it?  Huh?  Is this friend in the wedding party and also paying for makeup (or not paying for makeup)?  Because if they aren't, then they are not your closest friends and I'd care a lot more about what my closest friends WANTED to do rather than what some acquaintences told me I should do.

freebread03

So, if you want to make it mandatory, then pay for it.  It's really that simple.

junwes

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-beauty_bridesmaids-refusing-to-wear-makeup?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:358Discussion:33549040-29ec-4a91-8ba3-8f3303704aa1Post:02c8a11d-168f-42ef-a010-e696964c38ba">Re: bridesmaids refusing to wear makeup</a>:
[QUOTE]So, if you want to make it mandatory, then pay for it.  It's really that simple. Wait, so you don't care, but you want to make it mandatory because one of your friends told you to do it?  Huh?  Is this friend in the wedding party and also paying for makeup (or not paying for makeup)?  Because if they aren't, then they are not your closest friends and I'd care a lot more about what my closest friends WANTED to do rather than what some acquaintences told me I should do.
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it was a few of my friends that told me that. I didn't feel comfortable with that so I decided to see what other people thought. Like I said, I could care less. Now that I know that I don't have to do that I feel a lot better. Thanks for your help.

MyUserName1

I PROMISE that I can do my own natural makeup better than a makeup artist.  promise.  I literally studied makeup as part of my degree in college.  I'd be piiiiissssed if a bride tried to force me to pay to get makeup done. 

kmmssg

Do not listen to those friends.  They were obviously bridezillas and micromanagers.  Treat your friends well and it will be fine.  If they don't want to have their makeup done, no worries.  let it go.

Stinalove44

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-beauty_bridesmaids-refusing-to-wear-makeup?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:358Discussion:33549040-29ec-4a91-8ba3-8f3303704aa1Post:3aa8f638-07b6-4b18-8a45-4e8df80d3f76">Re: bridesmaids refusing to wear makeup</a>:
[QUOTE]Do not listen to those friends.  They were obviously bridezillas and micromanagers.  Treat your friends well and it will be fine.  If they don't want to have their makeup done, no worries.  let it go.
Posted by kmmssg[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>She is absolutely right. people on here can be so mean. your just looking for advice, people dont have to jump down your throat about it. If they dont want their make up done professionally, or just cant pay for it, let them do it them selves. and if its important to you that their make up all looks the same offer to pay for it. I wish you the best of luck for your wedding.</div>

Peledreamsofrain

Yeah I always like to remember that people have a little listening switch in their head.  It's very sensitive to negative feedback, and goes into the off position when provoked with it.  Honey and flies, otherwise you're just talking to yourself.

PP, I can see where you would be concerned with someone not wanting their makeup done, but keep in mind a couple of items that might help clear your head and worries a bit:

1.) the photos you will frame and hang in your house will be of you and your groom.  And YOU will have professional makeup.  The other photos rarely get looked at.

2.) if someone refuses to wear makeup at all, or does a terrible job with their own (which won't necessarily happen mind you)  it reflects poorly on them, not you.  It'll be them that gets giggled at if they show up with teal eyeshadow up to their eyebrows.

3.) It's not worth the friendship to make a row over it. 

4.) On the big day, you're going to be so busy, you won't notice anything like makeup on someone else.  You'd be lucky to spot someone showing up in drag.

5.)  Relax and breathe, you're getting married.  Yay!