Okay, so I told my girls they can wear their hair however is comfortable for them as long as it looks ok (not like rolling out of bed and showing up) And I told them I don't care if they want to do it themselves or have it done. I'm having my hair and my future stepdaughter's hair done. I have at least BM that is going and having her hair done too. I told all my BM what I'm planning and that if they want to get their hair done, let me know and I will make sure there is enough appointments made.
Because I'm not requiring them to get their hair done and they choose to, should I still pay for it? BM said she's paying for her hair, but FMIL said I should pay for all the girls. Any advice?