having an ugly day

nektariaf

Hey there

I need someone's input. I met up with an old roommate for brunch yesterday. She's never been a very open person, and she's kinda hard to get along with. I find myself questioning why I'm friends with her in the first place... ALOT.  I just moved away from my hometown in Dec. and haven't seen her since we both moved out of our apartment. she happened to be in my new city yesterday, so we met up for brunch.
we chit-chatted a bit, and I found I making all the effort in the conversation. I don't know if she even  wanted to be there. I just tried to keep it light. I mentioned that I think I found my wedding dress yesterday as I was shopping with my other friends (who drove 100 miles to visit me - she is not friends with them).  I already tried the dress on  a few weeks ago and need some input so the girls drove to Seattle to help me pick a dress. When I tried the dress on a few weeks ago, the sales assistant snapped a photo of me in it, albeit not a very good photo of me, but  its purpose was so I could show the dress to out of town friends and family. I pulled out my phone to show my old roommate at lunch as I described the dress.
Her verdict: You look really akward. But the dress it cute though.

Ouch. I am being to sensitive to think that is a BITCHY, catty thing to say. Isn't the bride supposed to be told she is beautiful. It wasn't even a direct critisim of the dress (like, its not that flattering, or I don't think its the best shape for you - which I could definately handle and accept). I Just felt like it was something said that was unnecessary...

My friends who saw the dress in person loved it, and talked me into buying it. but then next day, and today (2 days after) I'm having second thoughts because of the old roommates remarks.
I want to be gorgeous and glowing and beautiful on my wedding day! Help!

OBX2011

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[QUOTE]Hey there I need someone's input. I met up with an old roommate for brunch yesterday. She's never been a very open person, and she's kinda hard to get along with. I find myself questioning why I'm friends with her in the first place... ALOT.  I just moved away from my hometown in Dec. and haven't seen her since we both moved out of our apartment. she happened to be in my new city yesterday, so we met up for brunch. we chit-chatted a bit, and I found I making all the effort in the conversation. I don't know if she even  wanted to be there. I just tried to keep it light. I mentioned that I think I found my wedding dress yesterday as I was shopping with my other friends (who drove 100 miles to visit me - she is not friends with them).  I already tried the dress on  a few weeks ago and need some input so the girls drove to Seattle to help me pick a dress. When I tried the dress on a few weeks ago, the sales assistant snapped a photo of me in it, <strong>albeit not a very good photo of me</strong>, but  its purpose was so I could show the dress to out of town friends and family. I pulled out my phone to show my old roommate at lunch as I described the dress. Her verdict: <strong>You look really akward.</strong> But the dress it cute though. Ouch. I am being to sensitive to think that is a BITCHY, catty thing to say. Isn't the bride supposed to be told she is beautiful. It wasn't even a direct critisim of the dress (like, its not that flattering, or I don't think its the best shape for you - which I could definately handle and accept). I Just felt like it was something said that was unnecessary... My friends who saw the dress in person loved it, and talked me into buying it. but then next day, and today (2 days after) I'm having second thoughts because of the old roommates remarks. I want to be gorgeous and glowing and beautiful on my wedding day! Help!
Posted by nektariaf[/QUOTE]

You yourself admitted it wasn't a good pic, so I'm failing to see what the problem is here?

Your friend thought the dress was cute, so why is any of this changing your mind?

You are being just a teensy-weensy sensitive here.  Just let it roll off your back and buy the dress you already know you love.  Problem solved ;)

P.S.  The pics taken of me with  my gown on in the store looked awkward too and nothing like I did on my wedding day.  Let this go and buy that gorgeous dress of yours ;)

nektariaf

Thanks. I think it kinda upset me that she said I looked akward. I'll try to just forget it.

Ash61612

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[QUOTE]Thanks. I think it kinda upset me that she said I looked akward. <strong>I'll try to just forget it.</strong>
Posted by nektariaf[/QUOTE]
I think thats all you can do. I am sure she didn't mean to hurt your feelings. Like the PP said, you admitted it was a bad photo yourself.

jtoly

My one friend says off the wall things to me sometimes but I just blow it off. I won't let people get me down. I'm sure you look great in your dress!

plswitze

she isnt really a friend anyways. sounds jealous to me Go with your gut, don't let debbie downer get YOU down GL!

dogsandfrogs

I look incredibly awkward in the photos of me trying on my dress the day we bought it.  Combo of lighting and my emotional state.  I wouldn't worry about it.  Some people just don't know what to say sometimes.