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Tattoo in memory of deceased boyfriend
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Everyone has a past right? My fiance' knows about every detail of mine, because he has been part of my life forever.. before we were a couple he was one of my best friends, and he was best friends with the man I was in a relationship with before him... My past relationship was over six years, and he suddenly died in a car accident, which of course sent me into horrible shock and depression. I had been greatly into tattoos before his death, and every single tattoo I have has great meaning to me. When my boyfriend passed away, a few days later I got a tattoo in memory of him, on my wrist, with his name and a key (the key to my heart).. a few months later I got another tattoo in memory of him on my back of angel wings with a quote and his birth and death date, and again.. his name. I do not regret either of these tattoos at all, he was an important part of my life, and I will forever love him.. the only thing I regret is having his name on me twice.. it does not affect my fiance', he is very understanding, he also has a tattoo in memory of him, BUT.. I'm worried that on our wedding day people may look at me, marrying this amazing man, and then see the name of the man I lost, and it'll make it uncomfortable for people..... Our group of friends, and our families all know about what happened, and know about my tattoos, I just don't want anything to take away from the beauty of us becoming a married couple.
Input is greatly appreciated..
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Re: Tattoo in memory of deceased boyfriend
One thing I would think about is the pictures that will be taken of you and your FI. Do you want a picture of the two of you, timeless and beautiful on your wedding day... with your exes name in it? I know that he passed away and it is in memory of him, but for merely the sake of wedding photos I would want to cover it.
Hope that helps!
can you choose a full backed dress or dress with bolero, I think it would be a respectful choice to cover them so that the name of another guy isn't prominently displayed as you walk down the aisle
It will look nice and be comfortable to wear all night if you so choose. I hope this helps!
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If you really do want to cover your back tatoo entirely, I vote for a bolero or shurg or something during the ceremony, that's when your back will be most prominent.
Semantics aside, I agree with the others on trying to find a bolero, jacket, shrug, or something. Coverup and photoshop you'll always know is fake. Even if no one can tell.
The thing is that Cody was an extremely close friend of both of yours that died. It's okay for him to always hold a part of your heart. He holds part of your current fiance's and that's probably part of what brought the two of you together and is something you share. So, I say cover it for some of the photos but I might even, depending on where your fiance's tattoo is located, take a picture or two that feature them.
[QUOTE]I would rename the post to deceased previous boyfriend. Ex implies that there was a breakup of some sort. Semantics aside, I agree with the others on trying to find a bolero, jacket, shrug, or something. Coverup and photoshop you'll always know is fake. Even if no one can tell. The thing is that Cody was an extremely close friend of both of yours that died. It's okay for him to always hold a part of your heart. He holds part of your current fiance's and that's probably part of what brought the two of you together and is something you share. So, I say cover it for some of the photos but I might even, depending on where your fiance's tattoo is located, take a picture or two that feature them.
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I don't think you should emphasise them either, but I think they are a part of who you are and shouldn't be hidden. You were worried about what other people think, and I believe that since everyone already knows about it, hiding them will only make them stand out more (since people already know they are there).
This day is about you and your fiance, and I think you two, and not the ink on you, will be noticed on your day and in the pictures you will keep.
Just go with whatever feels natural.
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A double tiered veil would likely be thick enough to obscure the details of the tattoo so that it wouldn't be front and center; in fact, some people may not notice at all. That way there's no risk, on the day of, that you'll feel you're not being true to yourself, or your lost love, by covering up the tattoo with make-up.
Wear your hair down, or a veil, which you would probably do anyway, and come to the altar honoring the memory of someone who was part of your journey towards the man you will share the rest of your life with.
I wouldn't worry about what other people would think - what I WOULD worry about is all your wedding photos of the 2 of you and seeing "CODY". That's the first thing I thought of. (I hope this doesn't come across as insensitive. I would just personally not want beautiful photos of me and my husband on our wedding day and regret having those tattoos clearly displayed).