Bridal Party Prep

misstish137

I'm getting some resistance from my mother on what I had assumed would be the day-of schedule for me and my bridesmaids.  My three girls have all expressed an interest in getting their hair done at the salon with me.  After my hair, I was going to go back to my parents' house and get my make-up done there.  I figured if we got a second make-up person on-site, the girls could have their make-up done professionally as well.  Then we all get dressed, take pictures, and get in the car to go.  Sounded simple to me.

My mother thinks I'm nuts.  Her complaints range from "It's going to be too crowded in the house for all of that." (I only have three bridesmaids, so if anything, we're adding ONE extra person... the make-up pro.)  And "Why do you care about their make-up... you're the one that should look best."  (They're going to be in my pictures.... I don't want one of them making a bad make-up choice that looks funny in the photographs.  And if they're agreeing to pay for it, why not?)  Additionally, it seems that my sister-in-law's bridesmaids showed up at her parents' house with their hair and make-up already done... they just got dressed at the house. 

I'm confused.  When one of my girls asked me where I'm getting my hair done so that she could also make an appointment, I figured this was standard protocol (I've never been a bridesmaild myself.)  What is considered usual for the bridesmaids?  If you're getting your hair and make-up professionally done, what are YOU doing with your girls and their hair?

Summer2011Bride

We all got our hair and/or make-up done at the salon. I guess I don't get why you need to have the make-up artists come to the house, as opposed to just doing that at the salon too. We all got our make-up done first, then hair, so it wouldn't have worked to do it that way either.

If this is at your parents' house, your mom does get a say. She may not want that many people in the house as SHE is trying to get ready/dressed and get stuff ready to go for the day. Even though to you it's just three people, did you actually ask her if she was OK with having the girls over? If she doesn't seem like she wants to do this, I would not do it. It's her house. I think you should all get hair and make-up at the salon.

As far as where to get dresssed, we got dressed in a room at the Church/ceremony venue. Some of my BMs chose to dress at home and come already dressed, but I waited to put my dress on. That's an option too.

Also, make sure you're not pressuring the girls to get their make-up done or requiring it. If you require it, you pay for it. Many people don't like wearing make-up and look absolutely lovely without it. Your comment about them looking "funny" in pics if they make a bad make-up choice kind of rubs me the wrong way, as it probably does to them as well. Let them choose the make-up they want, whether professional or not.

tiffysue2012

I do not have a salon that is close to where I'm getting married that does make up and hair.... that may be your issue as well. However, I'm not requiring anything of my bridesmaids, they are the ones actually wanting to have their hair and makeup done on their own dime... so im having a friend thats a hairstylist come out and do their hair... my maid of honor is really good with makeup and she decided to do everyones for them... My entire wedding and reception is at my parents house on their own land so everything is being done in their home... but it's also big enough for all of this to happen. If I were you I would probably have a sit down with my mom and tell her your ideas and concerns if she really doesn't want people in her house I would check out your wedding/reception venue and see if there is room for you all to get ready there and just have the makeup artist come to the venue. Then after you ladies get your hair done you can just leave from there straight to the venue. If you can you should bring everything you need with you so you don't have to go back or you could have someone bring everything you all need to the venue while you are getting your hair done. I hope this helps and good luck!

KT020803

Everyone's day of schedule will be different. But for me the plan is for my girls to come with me to the Salon and we will all get our hair done, then a gf of mine will meet us back at my house and do everyone's makeup. (my house is 15 minutes from the ceremony site, and there is no room there for us to get dressed).  I am looking forward to drinking mimosa's and watching friends DVD's with my girls as I wait for it to be time to get dressed. I would try to talk to your mom and explain that it is important for you to all be together when you are getting ready for your big day. On a side note, I didn't read that you were making anyone do anything, they are choosing to get their hair and makeup done. I think your mom may have just gotten overwhelmed and I think your plan sounds like a good idea.
Good luck!

sasha213sw

I am getting my hair done at my salon first then getting makeup done at a hotel room I rented. FI and I live together so he is getting ready at the house with the GM so I decided to rent a room for the girls to get ready in. My salon does do makeup but I have never liked any of the work they have done before so I decided to just use someone that can come to the hotel rather then make another trip someplace else after hair.

I had planned on getting hair and makeup done so I asked the girls and whoever said yes it also getting it done.