wtf wednesday!!!

littlemoments324

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Maggieaha

Two huge assignments (GROUP PROJECTS) due tomorrow for Business School. Just ready for this semester to be OVER!!!!

butterflyjumper1

I AM FREAKING OUT ABOUT OUR OFFER!! we TOTALLY low balled it AND are asking for all sorts of extras (extra appliances/window treatment to stay, as high of closing costs as possible, home warranty, etc.), and we are nervous that the seller is just gonna say NO WAY, I am re-listing the home and going to market more and get pissed off at us.  I just want to know what is happening!! apparently our realtor is on the phone with the seller right now. The whole situation is really weird since it's a for sale by owner situation, so we have met the owner 4 times and he is super kooky and weird and we just have no idea what he is going to do. 

mekiakoo

Positive thoughts, butterflyjumper!! If he doesn't like your offer, let's hope he will at least counter. I totally felt like we were lowballing when we first put in our offer. It was $29k less than the asking price- but they refused to budge. Kept countering though.

My WTF is I feel so fat. You know those kinds of days? Last night I had velveeta mac & cheese for dinner then thin mints girl scouts cookies. I had oreos for lunch the other day too. I am going to force myself to exercise today so I will feel better about myself. I haven't really exercised since last week, if you don't count painting.  

BmoreBride311

Ah, GL Butterfly! Do you know if the house has been on the market for very long?

ceglare4

I hate cars and all their issues. This week has been the most stressful week I've had in a LONG time, and I'm not even looking forward to my shower this weekend because of it. And I am so.tired. So tired.

bells24412

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_wtf-wednesday-39?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:3740fc82-7fc6-453a-8af0-ca9cbc0e8c77Post:ac8b32eb-544e-408a-95fb-ecd71ceade0d">Re: wtf wednesday!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Positive thoughts, butterflyjumper!! If he doesn't like your offer, let's hope he will at least counter. I totally felt like we were lowballing when we first put in our offer. It was $29k less than the asking price- but they refused to budge. Kept countering though. <strong>My WTF is I feel so fat. You know those kinds of days? Last night I had velveeta mac & cheese for dinner then thin mints girl scouts cookies. I had oreos for lunch the other day too. I am going to force myself to exercise today so I will feel better about myself. I haven't really exercised since last week, if you don't count painting.  
</strong>Posted by mekiakoo[/QUOTE]

I am so with you on this. I have been eating like bad crap for me even though I have been tracking everything still doesn't makeup for it. I haven't really been exercising and I have been a total basket case crier because of this wedding.

The other day my FI and I were arguing about tuxes. Really tuxes?! WTF!

elizabethmae315

Yay butterfly!! Lowballing, and fishing like the sellers did to us are so common. Im sure your realtor knows a little bit about what he is doing. If he thought it was ridiculously low, he would have told you to increase it. I know this is so stressful! Ill be thinking of you and FI, and let us know when you do!

also. mekiakoo and ceglare- i totally understand both of you. Finals are not good for a bride 2 months away from the wedding, and Im supposed to have a fitting next week, and all I eat is crap lately.  Ceglare- my dad is mechanic; so to this day, I dont get cars- I get projects. There is always some light on or funny noise. I cant wait til the fall when I can *hopefully* get a nicer car, perhaps from this millenia. 

My WTF- hm. Im not sure I have one. Other than Im just not in the greatest of moods lately, and I cant seem to shake it. It might be PMS, but its worse than PMS typically is. Im hoping graduation or my shower saturday will shake me out of it. 

butterflyjumper1

it's (kind of) been on the market for awhile...He had it overpriced, ended up getting an offer and contracting quite some time ago, but the buyer ended up not getting financing and the deal fell through. that was when the seller got frustrated with his listing agent and decided to go solo, and since then, he has decreased his price SOME, but has been extremely undermarketed and hasn't even had the home really listed. so basically, we are afraid he is gonna say sorry bout cha, that offer is too low, I am going to re-list and find something better. our realtor is an amazing negotiator so we will see what happens...

I FEEL FAT THIS WEEK TOO!! With all the late night meetings with our realtor and showings and extra work I have had, I have hardly worked out and I have been eating like CRAP. I just don't feel good. I know I haven't actually gained any weight in one week of being lazy and eating not good, but it just doesn't make you feel good to know you haven't been your best.  I am hoping to shape up today - started my morning with an apple and banana smoothie, mmmm, so hopefully I can get a great workout + a yoga class in tonight!

Also, I VERY rarely get migraines. I think I have had 3 in my whole life. I am currently getting the weird "aura" where I have weird spots of darkness in my vision along with a horrible headache and I am afraid it is about to morph into a full blown migraine. 

michelle11988

I am feeling fat as well, I think its the crappy weather and I can't get to the gym due to the new house like I wanted to.  My WTF - I'm super stressed at work, I have tons of homework, and my boss is getting pissed at me that I haven't done these continuing education classes for my RE license.  Oh right and the wedding and house stuff that is going on.  I want to tell him if I could do it at work I would be done sooner, but I have no internet at my new house at the moment so I can't do it at nights!

bridetobe71412

Ugh, butterfly, I can feel the stress through the computer screen! I'm pulling for you guys, though!

I have a million WTFs today, but I won't even get started on them because I'll start crying again and I just stopped.

Bells, like you, the one that I WILL share is that I've been fighting with my fiance NON-STOP recently about stupid (and also not-so-stupid) stuff. It's creating extra stress and since we can't [*ahem*] I feel really, really disconnected from him lately. It makes me super sad.

AllyG303

Cramps...I. hate. cramps.  

On the upside, I still went running this morning!

butterflyjumper1

bridetobe : I cried this morning too!! (it was fairly close to a sob, actually). you are not alone!!!! stress + no "aheming" = bad news bears for my emotions

BmoreBride311

I just had a really dumb fight with my FI, too. He was just in a pissy mood when he got home and literally started screaming at me b/c it felt humid in the apartment and I didn't open the window when I got home. He flipped out about me not opening a window, people! I couldn't believe it as it was happening and I still don't get it. I was in the bedroom researching the videographer I was about to have a call with, and he came home and started yelling about it without even saying Hi to me. He was also obviously mad that I hadn't started on dinner, but I had only been home 10 minutes and had the videographer call 10 minutes from then, so there was no time to start on dinner.

He kind of apologized this morning, but I'm still annoyed. And I'm not going to see him tonight b/c he's on call so he has to stay at the hospital. He'll probably get very little sleep and then be even pissier tomorrow night. Oh joy.

k8888

***Fingers crossed for butterflyjumper**

OK, I have a semi-long post today....

My WTF is my MUA artist.  I had my trial with her on Monday... she nailed it.  She did exactly what I asked her to do and my face looked flawless and my eyes looked stunning.  We then proceeded to talk final invoicing, and I mentioned that I added a BM and my FMIL to the makeup list since we last spoke (total is now 8, includign me).  She now wants to charge me another $150 to bring an "assistant" to ensure everyone is done within my time frame.... So that would mean I'm spending $300 on makeup myself.  $300????  I'm no cheapskate, but COME ON.


On a much more positive note, my mom's friend let us know that she is still available to do my bouquets and bouts so we'll be meeting with her one of these weekends to discuss them.  She also said she would love to use the brooches I've already wired from my failure of a brooch bouquet, so I'm going to have them incorporated in ALL of the bouquets.  I'm relieved I'll at least get some use out of them and then the girls can keep the ones in their bouquets.

She's saving me a ton of money with doing my flowers since this is kind of a hobby/side-thing she likes to do.

ALSO, we get to close 2 weeks sooner on our house than originally planned!  YAY.

ceglare4

Ugh FI and I have been fighting a lot lately too, about stupid stuff. And well, not so stupid stuff, because car issues aren't stupid. But we're fighting over our dance lessons and the mail not arriving on time and it's been awful for a week straight right now. I've been on the verge of crying for days now.

dramaqueen91087

I have a huge WTF this week.

Last weekend my student loan payment was due. So after I got paid thursday I went online and paid it. Two days later I still hadn't recieved the e-mail notification saying it was being paid and the money was still in my account. This has happened before (payment not going through) and I didn't want to deal with late charges, so I paid it again. This time I got the e-mails and the money was taken, all set.

Well yesterday I went to the grocery store to pick up a few things. My card was denied.I checked my account on my phone and discovered that, without sending me any e-mails, they took the payment out a second time! And I didn't have enough money to cover it so I'm overdrawn and owe the bank money!

I called the loan company the second I go home but their systems were down! I was not happy. I called again this morning. They have no idea why this happened. Can't tell me why I didn't recieve notice and can't refund me because thats a different department. He gave me the e-mail to contact the right department.

I e-mailed them right away. I got a response back saying "we'll get back to you in 2-3 business days". WTF I don't have 2-3 business days. You took my money and I have other bills to pay.

Sorry this was so long, I'm just really frustrated right now.

bridetobe71412

Ally - You're a rockstar!

Bmore - UGH. I am your fiance, I think. I was pissed at my fiance because he isn't helping at all (and I mean, NOT AT ALL) and when I tried to bring up I could use his help assembling the invitations (maybe I was kind of a b*tch when I said it) he started yelling at me, etc. etc. and it was all downhill. I literally cried all night and then cried all morning and when we went to meet with the priest, he was straight up cold to me. I know I am not pleasant to be around when I'm stressed, but he didn't have to yell!

butterfly - I can't even imagine adding the house stress on top of this all!

k8888 - That's effing ridiculous. Mine is charging me for an assistant but that's because we have 12 people and I want us done quickly. But yay for your house!

arunkumar

I parked my car in the street of our neighborhood yesterday because my friend was blocking the (single) driveway. I left it there overnight, which is completely fine. Or so I thought. I found a ticket on my windshield this morning. Apparently I can't park in my own subdivision between 3 and 6am. My fiance and and I have been living there two years and never knew there was a rule. The ticket was $80!  I called the parking division to complain about how there were no signs anywhere and she said there are signs on all major roads in the city. Um, who's going to read a sign on a major street because they think it applies to the entire city, even within subdivisions? I've never noticed the signs she's speaking of either. I'm writing a letter to the court to fight it but I don't know if I'll get it waived.

k8888

dramaqueen - That sucks... call your back and explain to them what happened and they should be willing to waive the overdrawn fees (I'm assuming you're normally a good customer).


I'm sorry to hear about all of your grumpy FIs!!  Maybe their periods are all regulated together.  The NJ Devils won last night so my FI has been in an exceptional mood hahaha.

k8888

***Typo in my post above - back = bank

BmoreBride311

@Bridetobe - No, I DO help out in the apartment - trust me! And I'm the one doing all the invitations and menus and appointments with vendors. And I don't complain to him about not helping me, b/c I know his school work is stressful. But then he just turns around and flips on me about a window. WFT - just go open the window and stfu about it. UGHHHH.

butterflyjumper1

k8888: My MUA is bringing 1 and probably 2 assistants with her, but not charging any extra to bring them since we pay by person, and the more people she has, the less time everything takes. that's a lot of $$ to pay to be done quicker!! I am so glad everything is working out with the florist though, yay!!

bridetobe: I am also the same person as you. I have had I D E N TI I C A L fights with my fiance about him not helping enough, and he always just gets mad and says I WOULD HELP IF I KNEW YOU WOULDN'T JUST RE-DO WHATEVER I TRY TO DO ANYWAY. I am really sorry that happened, I know how much fights like that can hurt even if the actual content of the fight is silly.

dramaqueen: that's AWFUL!!! call the other department right now. you shouldn't have to wait 2-3 days to get the $$ back.

Ally: I am so impressed!! morning runs are so tough!!

MY REALTOR STILL HASN'T CALLED I AM ON PINS AND NEEDLES!

bridetobe71412

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_wtf-wednesday-39?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:3740fc82-7fc6-453a-8af0-ca9cbc0e8c77Post:4fae9b39-a74c-42cb-a95c-160a1cc5f3f9">Re: wtf wednesday!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]@Bridetobe - No, I DO help out in the apartment - trust me! And I'm the one doing all the invitations and menus and appointments with vendors. <strong>And I don't complain to him about not helping me, b/c I know his school work is stressful.</strong> But then he just turns around and flips on me about a window. WFT - just go open the window and stfu about it. UGHHHH.
Posted by BmoreBride311[/QUOTE]

See, I think that's the thing that's opposite with me. I was complaining to him that he wasn't helping, despite the fact I know he's busy at work because, well, I'm busy too . . . so I think I probably didn't approach it right. You sound like you're treating your fiance perfectly nicely AND doing everything, and he was just being PMSy. And yes, just OPEN THE WINDOW! omg I would have probably said something nasty in return (I have no filter lately).

Me, on the other hand - I was kind of a b*tch when I said that he wasn't helping, so then he started yelling at me.

singing_lyn

Oh boy here I go. My fiance has been working every night for almost 3home weeks and his boss still hasn't paid him and I'm only earning enough to cover our bills so at this point I'm beyond stressed about money and have no idea how we're going to pay for the wedding since he's letting his new boss walk all over him and my mom the last time we spoke basically said I should leave him because he can't provide for me and she doesn't think he has a good work ethic and so on. So I'm telling him there's no way we'll come up with the money for our honeymoon let alone the wedding and I should call to get a refund on our tickets since I got insurance and I could cry because I desperately need a vacation and he keeps saying no don't I'll get the money but he's not getting off his butt and getting a job that will actually pay him and not getting his current boss to pay him either. Plus him working overnights means no ahem and I switched birth control to one that was cheaper and now I get PMS horribly bad and cramps and I hate it. I'm just soooooo tired of everything right now.

dawnleanna1

k8888: My MUA/Hairstylist is doing the same thing. We are having 8 total for hair too and I think the price for the extra assistant is also $150. It seems kinda high but I am going to pay it just because I don't want to stress out about everyone not being done in time, and I don't want her to rush and not do as good of a job.

My WTF this week is about my caterer/reception decorator. We met them the friday before last for our showing and I thought everything went great. Problem is, we have yet to get an accurate quote and they have yet to discuss payment with us. Their prices looked good from the beginning, but we have yet to give them a dime and the wedding is less than two weeks away! FI thinks thats great but I'm secretly freaking out. WTF!

Also we are set to have our engagement pics taken on Friday in a park, and it is supposed to rain like all week  I emailed or photographer to ask her what she wants to do and she still hasn't responded.

BmoreBride311

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_wtf-wednesday-39?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:3740fc82-7fc6-453a-8af0-ca9cbc0e8c77Post:e9ae200f-8541-4954-8362-52ccf82d4941">Re: wtf wednesday!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: wtf wednesday!!! : See, I think that's the thing that's opposite with me. I was complaining to him that he wasn't helping, despite the fact I know he's busy at work because, well, I'm busy too . . . so I think I probably didn't approach it right. You sound like you're treating your fiance perfectly nicely AND doing everything, and he was just being PMSy. And yes, just OPEN THE WINDOW! <strong>omg I would have probably said something nasty in return (I have no filter lately).</strong> Me, on the other hand - I was kind of a b*tch when I said that he wasn't helping, so then he started yelling at me.
Posted by bridetobe71412[/QUOTE]

Oh I did! Then he got quiet and opened the window but he didn't apologize until this morning. Sometimes he's such a baby!

lvissers

Glad to hear I'm not the only one on the verge of losing it emotionally lately. I had tears in my eyes multiple times yesterday. With my job on the rocks, the wedding stress getting bigger, my MOH driving me crazy about hotel rooms in vegas for the Bachelorette party and "waiting" for my time of month(I took 2 packs back to back last and now its not coming, I know Im not prego, but it's super stressting me out and almost want to take a test just for piece of mind) I feel like it's too much to handle for me right now. My FI and I went to a dance lesson last night and decided this dance studio is a cult. They kept trying to get us to stay for the "party" after the lesson and different dance instructors kept whisking my FI and I off dancing. Definitely a different "kind" of too bubbly happy people that teach here. They were just really pushy about getting us to sign up for more lesson, etc. We have 1 more lesson left, but we decided last night, we are not going back! lol. My Fi loved me for agreeing to this.
Butterfly - Stay positive about your offer and expect a counter offer back. Good luck!

Sorry for everyone else being upset/fighting, etc. it's a horrible feeling.

And I feel super fat lately too, I am doing spin class tonight for sure!

BrightFirefly

I'm jumping on the "I feel fat" bandwagon as well. As soon as Abuela's laundry is finished, I'm headin' to the gym. I've gained eight pounds since starting school in September. Stress eating, for sure.

flobear100

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_wtf-wednesday-39?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:3740fc82-7fc6-453a-8af0-ca9cbc0e8c77Post:6ae63722-c2a7-4328-a880-e2c52b6ff2fa">Re: wtf wednesday!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]***Fingers crossed for butterflyjumper** OK, I have a semi-long post today.... My WTF is my MUA artist.  I had my trial with her on Monday... she nailed it.  She did exactly what I asked her to do and my face looked flawless and my eyes looked stunning.  We then proceeded to talk final invoicing, and I mentioned that I added a BM and my FMIL to the makeup list since we last spoke (total is now 8, includign me).  She now wants to charge me another $150 to bring an "assistant" to ensure everyone is done within my time frame.... So that would mean I'm spending $300 on makeup myself.  $300????  I'm no cheapskate, but COME ON.
Posted by k8888[/QUOTE]

My hair & make-up artist for me and my Mom, and then the hair for my MOH and MOH is going to be $472 plus the cost of my trial...I think some of that has to do with being downtown Chicago, but that was a good price compared to other places...I hope that makes you feel better

flobear100

I'm in a mostly good place today, I think I got my WTFs over with yesterday

I'm happy to give virtual hugs to everyone posting on here today for support though!


*HUGS*