Jeez, am I over reacting about this?!

lovemeXoX10

Okay so I'm going to make this as short and sweet as possible. 

So I thought the idea of my bridesmaids wearing make-up would be a great idea (why wouldn't you want to wear make-up to a wedding anyways, anywho) Well I told the girls already that I wanted to have them do there make-up it can be light or however they wanted. Well, my sister (just has to be the difficult one) says "I don't like wearing make-up". Now before anyone is like really this is over make-up, let me back up the story. My sister is 31 and hasn't had the greatest life... and still doesn't have her life together. I've been there for my sister from day 1, for her and her daughter. I've given her money for things whenever it has been needed etc, I think most people get the gist of what I'm trying to say. Well she wears make-up every now and then so she can't say she doesn't like wearing it. I argued with her about it and got so frustrated I just ended the convo about it with her. I feel like after everything I've done for her, and she can't wear some make-up for a few hours for her LITTLE sister's wedding day?! I don't think it's very fair.. but I feel at the same time I'm being a "bridezilla". My sister and I aren't on the greatest terms, never have really been. So in other words she's lucky I picked her to be in the wedding. I'm paying for her daughter's entire attire wear for the day.. and yet still doesn't want to wear the make-up...

I had to get this off my chest, my MOH/best friend, our mother, and a few other ladies I've discussed this with (who know the whole story about my sister and I's relationship) agree with me..

This is so frustrating.. 

Beverly8

If your sister doesn't want to wear make-up, I don't think that she should have to.  I do not think it is as big of a deal as you are making it.  I doubt your guests will notice and I am sure it wont effect the quality of your photos either. If she is uncomfortable wearing make-up or maybe doesn't have the money to get it done if she can not do it herself, it's ok.

I think your making something as small as make-up get so far under your skin.  

lovemeXoX10

In Response to Re:Jeez, am I over reacting about this?!:[QUOTE]If your sister doesn't want to wear makeup, I don't think that she should have to. nbsp;I do not think it is as big of a deal as you are making it. nbsp;I doubt your guests will notice and I am sure it wont effect the quality of your photos either. If she is uncomfortable wearing makeup or maybe doesn't have the money to get it done if she can not do it herself, it's ok.I think your making something as small as makeup get so far under your skin. nbsp; Posted by Beverly8[/QUOTE]

This is true. I honestly do think I'm making a bigger deal out of it than what it should be... My sister just always wants to be the difficult one for everything.. I think that's why I get so frustrated quickly about things like this...

Beverly8

Yeah, don't sweat the small stuff.  If this is one of your biggest problems, you are one very lucky girl.  I can understand getting frustrated when it seems to be the same person being difficult or causing problems but regardless if she wears make-up or not all of you will look beautiful, no worries.

ininmdma

She's lucky you picked her to be in the wedding? Sounds like you might have some bigger issues than makeup. More importantly, who cares?? If anything it will make you stand out MORE...I'd much rather have a bridesmaid wear no makeup than wear way too much and be a distraction.

ininmdma

It's clear that most of us would do just about anything for a bride (including wear makeup), and that's all fine and good, but the reality of the situation is that the sister said "no." I'd let it go and just know that you will be beautiful on YOUR day...don't make it about her.