I am getting married next year and am getting a lot of pressure from my mother to have a particular first cousin (18 years old) in my wedding party as a bridesmaid. My mother knows that my thought is to have her sister (25 years-old) be my maid-of-honor, and three bridesmaids including: my sister, my best friend, and another first cousin.
I had not really thought to consider my other cousin because we have never been close. We do not see each other outside of family vacations. get togethers, my fiance doesn't care for her, and she does not get along with my other first cousin or my best friend. She has not said a word of congrats or how's the wedding planning going since we got engaged in December. (It really didn't upset me until my mom and her sister started talking about how hurt she would be if she wasn't included in the wedding. I feel if you want to be in the wedding you should at least say something about how you care.)
I am actually getting annoyed at her now because I am thinking about all the reasons we are not close and starting to get annoyed and hurt. I feel like if she really would be hurt if I choose not to include her its because she wants to be in a wedding (we arethe first wedding in 20 years on either side of my family) not because she wants to be in our wedding.
At the same time, I would hate to have anyone upset at my wedding, so my instinct personally would be to include her to keep the peace. However, my fiance is completely against the idea of including her. My mother than said to him he has no say in the bridesmaids, which upset him.
So do I include her in my wedding party or not?
