HELP - Invitation delema - Mailed vs Emailed

jhribar

I am pretty cheap and to be honest throw away every invitation i get from a birthday party to a wedding and I am really interested in doing it through greenenvelope.com ... and sending an invitation via email (mail to certain people who dont have email) I just think it would help cut cost on actual invites / envelopes / stamps. I think I am going to get a lot of backlash on it from some people but at the same breath people tell me to do what i want to to do ... so where do you draw the line? 

Me personally I would rather get a "party favor" then a paper invite that ends up in the trash.
HELP...

rlavach

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[QUOTE]I am pretty cheap and to be honest throw away every invitation i get from a birthday party to a wedding and I am really interested in doing it through greenenvelope.com ... and sending an invitation via email (mail to certain people who dont have email) I just think it would help cut cost on actual invites / envelopes / stamps. I think I am going to get a lot of backlash on it from some people but at the same breath people tell me to do what i want to to do ... so where do you draw the line? <strong> Me personally I would rather get a "party favor" then a paper invite that ends up in the trash. </strong>HELP...
Posted by jhribar[/QUOTE]
That's funny, I'd honestly prefer a paper invite that I can put up on my fridge or in my planner & take with me the day-of (for the address) than a little trinket. <div>
</div><div>You're right in saying you will get some backlash for this. If you use the search function below, you'll see that there are plenty of others who have asked. Other than the obvious reasons that not everyone checks their email regularly & that it can get caught in a spam folder, it's just not formal. Online invitations are for backyard BBQs & b-day parties, not weddings. </div><div>
</div><div>To cut costs, how about you use a DIY invite kit from a craft store or from Vistaprint? For 100 invites I spent about $120 that included ivory linen envelopes from LCI Paper, 6x9 flat invites from Vistaprint, RSVP postcard and postage for all. You don't have to do multiple inserts, belly bands and pocketfolds. It can be simple and cost effective. I used Living Social deals and online coupons for Vistaprint to get it all so cheap.</div>

pattib5

Yeah, I agree with the PPs. I'm definitely not a stickler for doing everything exactly by the book, but I'd be pretty put off if I received an email wedding invitation. Especially since your motivation doesn't seem to be about going green, but rather to save money.

I'd for sure rather have a physical invitation than a favor.

ETA, invitations set the tone for the wedding. If I received an emailed wedding invitation, I'd expect a hasty, thrown together wedding. And depending how close I was to the bride/groom, probably wouldn't care to attend.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

The only time I would say this is okay is for a really informal wedding with less than 15-20 guests. Then you can easily follow up with people, and the invitations are more of a "formality" (i.e. everyone already knows they are invited).

GoodLuckBear14

When most people get an invitation it goes somewhere they will see it like the fridge or a bulletin board.  An email gets forgotten very quickly.

AurorasEnvy

I agree with PPs, you don't have to send something super fancy or expensive, but I'd send an actual invite.  And I agree, I'd rather have an invite than a favor - there have only been 2 favors that I've ever actually enjoyed.  One was edible, and one was a photobooth strip of pictures.

saacjw

Agree with PPs. You can get invites for relatively inexpensively and you don't need to send anything fancy or complicated. My cousin sent a card in an envelope with an online RSVP, simple, matched the informality of the wedding, and fairly inexpensive. 

I can say that I have gotten online invites. It was awful, because I had to travel for the wedding and didn't have a sheet right on hand saying when and where to remind me of it. It also had an insanely tacky feel, almost like they didn't really want people there THAT much. It's easy to go through your email address book or facebook page and get people, when you have to collect addresses and write them out, it seems more like a "yes, I do care that you attend."

Peavy

Your wedding deserves better than an emailed invitation.

bellabananas

I love receiving paper invitations. I just got one for a baby shower shaped like a diaper! Since it's an invite that will be sent out three months in advance, most people will probably hold on to them. It may eventually get thrown out but so will almost everything else involved with your wedding. I plan on putting ours into our wedding album and I've seen photo frames/collections that have a slot for the invite. I emailed our save the dates, and maybe that's a good way to compromise?

Soon2BSand

dilemma* my dear...

And I'd rather get the paper invite too. You can print some really nice things on VistaPrint. 

K27Lynn

One of my sorority sisters used greenvelope to send out last minute invitations. In her situation she has been out of state for two years and lost touch with some people but wanted them to be there when she was getting married in our home state. I've also had someone use facebook to inform a group of people that didnt rsvp with a date that there was still space to do so if they wanted. Both situations involved college students who are easily offened. It depends on the feel of your wedding.
I think if you use them for the B list people, its fine. Maybe use cheaper/simpler paper invitations for those that are more traditional. Everyone has people they would like to invite but can't because of space or budget. They should be happy they get to celebrate with you either way.

deanabuonincontri

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[QUOTE]Your wedding deserves better than an emailed invitation.
Posted by Peavy[/QUOTE]


This!!

deanabuonincontri

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[QUOTE]One of my sorority sisters used greenvelope to send out last minute invitations. In her situation she has been out of state for two years and lost touch with some people but wanted them to be there when she was getting married in our home state. I've also had someone use facebook to inform a group of people that didnt rsvp with a date that there was still space to do so if they wanted. Both situations involved college students who are easily offened. It depends on the feel of your wedding. I think if you use them for the B list people, its fine. Maybe use cheaper/simpler paper invitations for those that are more traditional. Everyone has people they would like to invite but can't because of space or budget. They should be happy they get to celebrate with you either way.
Posted by K27Lynn[/QUOTE]

I really do think that there are a million and one reasons not to send email wedding invitations. It's tacky, cheap, easily forgotten, deleted, lost, your wedding deserves better, it's a formal occasion etc. With that being said, if you insist....please use a reputable place like green envelope and do NOT use facebook. also - if b listing people is just plain rude and they almost always find out about it.

jhribar

Ha! I appreciate everyones input on this.... I have never been someone who would worry if someone thought something I was doing was tacky or cheap... because to me being cheap is a compliment.  Our wedding is just family no friends so there is no A / B / C list ... its would have just depended if they had email or not. 

I will look into some of the sites some of you kind peeps have posted and check it out.... As I know we arent all the same and if a silly paper thing i throw in the trash means so much to people then me then like some of you said fine that will be their wedding favor. 

Hope you all have a great weekend! Thank you again for taking the time to be so honest to someone you dont know.

teamjama1

When I get a wedding invite, I feel obligated to hold onto it because someone spent the time and money to send it... but I really want to recycle it!!  I don't want any more clutter than I have to have and it's a waste of paper in my opinion.  It's not even like it's one piece of paper.. it's like 3 or 4.  If you're communicating with guests through your wedding website, then why not send invites like that?  If people are offended, they have way too much time on their hands.  There are much bigger issues in the world than not getting a paper invite.  I also plan on not using place cards and just doing some sort of seating list so we don't waste a bunch of paper.
Good luck and have fun!!!