I guess sometimes the culture differences between me and my FI are apparent... I grew up in a big city on the west coast, and he grew up in a small town in the midwest. Usually there aren't culture differences that are an issue, but this one seems to be. I had absolutely NEVER heard of a dollar dance until I moved to the midwest, and I went to a wedding for my ex's friends who had one. I kinda went along with it but I had no idea why on earth we were doing it, it seemed weird. I just figured it was some sort of fluke and promptly forgot all about it.
Then the other night, I just happened to mention it to FI, and he said "well, of COURSE we're having a dollar dance! Everyone in my family has always had one of those, it's tradition!" He also made it seem like if we DIDN'T have a dollar dance, then it would be seen as very very weird and totally wrong to do, because that's just what is done around here. My family isn't from here though, they're all from either the west coast or east coast. I have no idea how they would react to this (if they've seen them before, if they'll find them tacky, etc.) FI is seeming inflexible on this issue, he wants a dollar dance and insists that it'd be wrong not to have one. So what do I do about this very sticky, potentially tacky issue?