honour father who passed away

melis_106

Just wondering if anyone has any ideas on how i can incorporate a father daughter dance into the reception.. My dad passed away 7 years ago, but i would still like to have a father daughter dance.. My uncle was my dads best friend and has been like a father to me since day 1, theres no doubt in my mind that i want to dance with him since i cannot dance with my dad. Any suggestions on how to honour my dad at the same time? Also any song suggestions? Im stuck.i just don't know how to make it all work..

SonJohn

You could create a slideshow or movie of photos/video footage of you and your dad to play while you dance with your uncle.  You could also include photos of your dad and uncle as well along with a message at the end of the slideshow to your dad.  Good luck! x

nefariousmoon

You could always play your dad's favorite song...if you don't know what it is, i am sure your Uncle can help you out.

lyn_mello

I understand what you are going through. My father passed away 7 years ago too. I have been thinking of ways to honor him as well. I am not doing father-daughter or mother-son dances. However, I think it's wonderful that you will dance with your uncle. I agree that you should play one of your Dad's favorite songs while you dance with your uncle. The people that know you well will understand the significance of the song. I DON'T think you should have a slide show, too much of a downer. Maybe a picture by the gift table with a candle. A slide show will be way too sad! You want your wedding to be happy!! I am donating to the American Cancer Society in honor of my dad as a wedding favor. They will make scrolls for you for FREE - so you can spend more on the donation. I am also having my wedding party enter to an acoustic version of "Zip-A Dee-Do Dah," he would sing that song with me when I was little. Also, we are doing a sand ceremony, my father took our family to the beach when I was a kid. There are so many things you can do. I hope you have a wonderful wedding.

ffmaid

In your case FI does not have his mom and you do not have your dad. Why not skip both the father daughter and mother son dances

lyn_mello

Stage Manager - you are right - it does cost the ACS. However, we are taking the printing fee we would have paid and adding that to the donation. A lot of my family members will take the scrolls home, and we are tying a Yankees ribbon around it. I live in Massachusetts, but my dad was a Yankees fan, so it'll be a nice touch. The sign is nice, but I feel it won't have the effect we are looking for.

Cait2012

Maybe a special table dedicated to the memory of both you and FI's parents would be a nice tribute to them without trying to make the father daughter and mother son dances work. Maybe just make special notice of where they would have sat, their favourite songs, etc. You can still dance with your uncle to a special song without formalizing it under a title, and then your passed parents will be remembered and recognized in a purely positive way, rather than in a way that brings attention to their absence, and may stir painful feelings.

melis_106

Thanks everyone for your suggestions! you have all definitly given me things to consider!

lyn_mello

Hello, Stage Manager, In regards to my favor, we prefer to have the scrolls at the table, on the plates, so everyone will see , open, and read them. My colors are blue and green, so the blue yankee ribbons will really stand out on the tables. My dad was a huge Yankee fan, my family and friends know this, and it will be a nice, subtle memorial. Many of my family members will take these scrolls home as a memory of my dad. That is why I prefer the scrolls over the sign. The sign is a great idea as well!