Rings...

joesbelle

We want to have the exchange of rings be a bigger part of our wedding than normal. We don't want a ring bearer or to just have the Maid of Honor and the Best Man have them. I was thinking about some way that maybe I could carry them up or I could just carry mine and FH have his somehow....I would carry one or both instead of flowers... Anyone ever done anything like this or have any ideas? The wedding's in January. Thanks! Belle

trix1223

I'm not really sure how you carrying your FIs ring will make the ring part "bigger" in your wedding than if your BM or MOH carries it.   Can you explain more about what you're envisioning?

Anon I. Mouse

I don't know how you carrying it makes it "bigger" either - not everyone has a ring bearer or MOH or BM at all, never mind carrying the rings!Anyway, FI and I are not having a wedding party, so we will carry one anothers rings on our finger; but we are also walking in together to ceremony and so forth so are throwing most traditions out the window.

janedoe1113a

I'm also not sure how this will make it a bigger part of your wedding.  If you want though, you could get a ring dish or something and carry them like your ring bearer would do.

hudzis13

Belle,This is a very uncommon thing to do, but I have heard of some brides doing it. I think I saw it on offbeatbride.com. It's called a ring blessing ceremony. At the very beginning of the wedding, you pass the pair of rings around all the guests. Make sure you attach them to something like a book or a pillow to keep them safe. Each guest is invited to silently say a blessing or some words of wisdom over your rings and pass them on. The rings should get back up to the front of the ceremony by the time your ready to exchange rings. This will take some explaining to your guests and it might not work out if your wedding is really big. Just try searching for "ring blessing ceremony" and you should find some ideas. I think offbeatbride.com might have ideas on how to make a ring book (less frilly than a pillow). Good luck!

joesbelle

To us the rings are really important. It's the one symbol that tells the world we are dedicated to one another and are a team. It's universally known. Us carrying the rings instead of anyone else makes it more important because we are promising to wear this symbol and WE are the ones giving them to each other. We are going to write a set of 'vows' that go with the exchange of the rings. They'll only be one or two lines and they will say a totally different thing than the wedding vows. The blessing idea I like a lot but we do have a pretty big invite list. Maybe we could just have our parents bless them or just a few really important people. I hope that info helps!

felkels

look up the blessing ceremony, but also talk to your officant and see if he knows anything to embelish his part of the ceremony too...  I know at my wedding we are wearing our rings on our right hands, and the pastor is going to explain that this is because the bible says that Jesus is at the right hand of the father (only part of it...also I have nerve damage in my left ring finger and don't want to loose my ring).  What about having a station at the enterence...guest book, gift table, ring blessing table...have someone there to explain what you are doing, and ask your guest to bless the rings then if they would like.  Or incourperate it with the guest book...sign the guest book, and write your ring blessing...etc.  If you do that, everyone will have the chance to participate, and your guest book person could just make sure you have the rings before the ceremony?  Good luck!