How do you avoid kissing at the reception?

CzBerger

My fiance and I are not fans of "kissing in public" and would like to limit the glass dinging at the reception. Does anyone have any great ideas to avoid kissing at the reception, or something different to try so there isn't a kiss ever 5 seconds?Thank you for any help you have to offer!!!!

On_Cloud_Nine

Ignore the chinking glasses?Sorry I'm not helpful.

trix1223

C'mon-it's your wedding day.  You're going to kiss at the end of your ceremony, right?  Is it really so bad to kiss your honey?As stage said:  kiss the first time the glass clinking starts.   Then just don't do it.  They'll get the idea.My DD was married in July-I remember one glass clinking.  My son was married 3 years ago.  I think there were 2.Be a good sport for one, and then it will go away.

Leah&Christian09

I didn't want to do this either.  I don't mind kissing my DH in public, but I don't like performing on cue and didn't want to be annoyed with it all night.  So I played dumb the first time someone tried.  After that, people left it alone.

panda&squishy

I went to a wedding once where the DJ announced that clinking of the glasses would not result in kisses. He then announced that if you wanted the bride and groom to kiss, you had to get up, get the mic, and sing a song with the word "love" in it. I think the B&G thought no one would do this, but the wedding party did it at least three or four times alone (after they got drunk; one song was the Barney theme song), and some of the guests did, too. IMO, It was way more annoying than the clinking, but if you think your guests don't have the guts to sing to you, maybe you could try that.

megk8oz

Like the pps said, do it once the first time, and then after that ignore it. People WILL get the hint.

ffmaid

Anything different just makes a bigger deal of it. If you just ignore the clinking people will stop

Anon I. Mouse

We don't mind kissing, but FI and I detest glass dinging.We are having our "reception dinner" in the dining room at the resort after the ceremony. We only have 20 guests, all close to us, who we will simply state "no glass dinging" too and we also have faith they will fully respect that. They have already also been informed that there are no photos during the ceremony, and have been more than accepting of that.If for some reason they don't respect our wishes on the glass dinging, we will simply ignore it.Or if you are still open to kissing, but not so frequently, you can arrange that tables must sing a song, or answer a trivia question about you, finish a crossword puzzle (all of which I have seen done in the past).

duckie1905

Just do it once and then ignore it after that.  IMO, making the guests sing or dance or tell jokes to see the bride and groom kiss is even more obnoxious than glass clinking.  I don't care to see the couple's drunk friends dance and sing off key so the couple will smooch.  I'd rather enjoy my dinner.

Calypso1977

no one clinked at our wedding or my SIL's.  perhaps this wont even be an issue?

sarges05girl

At our wedding we only had to kiss about 4 times. And that was only during dinner...hint: the quicker you eat, the less time there is for class clinking. ;)But I do agree with the pp's that you should probably just do it the first time and then ignore any more and it will die down.Or you can always do what my BM did at her wedding: she put the names of all the couples in attendance in a hat and when the first class clinking started the DJ announced: "She & He are newlyweds and not too good in the romance department, so they need a little help." He pulled 3 couples from the hat, asked how long they were married, and had them perform an "example" kiss for the bride and groom (all 3 had to kiss before the B & G did). After that, no one else wanted to be put on the spot, so there was no more class clinking. However, depending on your crowd, I can see that totally backfiring. :P

kjmullaney1

I plan on doing what PP did--having people with more experience show us how it's done- I think it'll be really cute and won't have us as the center of attention

thewayiam

I posted this same question a couple of months ago. I hate the clinking. I hate the love songs. I just planned to ignore it. However, the following was suggested to me, and who knows... maybe we'll do it. Fill a vase or bowl or some kind of pretty container with 2 different colours of Hershey's kisses. The guests are invited to come up and select a kiss from the bag. If they select a red kiss (or whatever other colour) then the Bride & Groom kiss. If they select the silver (or whatever) kiss then the guest must go back and kiss somone from their table or from the room. And if you don't want to kiss much, don't put too many of the Bride & Groom coloured kisses. Also, my little niece (flower girl) is going to walk around with a basket and these inside. http://www.marthastewartweddings.com/goodthings/lip-smacking-good?autonomy_kw=cootie%20catcher&rsc=header_1

StarJay

My cousin circumvented the glass clinking by putting a  pretty jar on the head table to collect money.  To get the bride and groom to kiss, you had to put money in the jar.  I don't remember how it was made known, probably via the DJ, but any money in the jar was to be donated to a charity meaningful to the B&G.  It worked out so that the B&G did a have a few kisses but not many, which was my shy cousins goal, and they still ended up with a sizable sum to turn into their charity, so he felt the public kisses were worth it.

janedoe1113a

This is why we're using plastic glasses.