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Asking a friend of another faith to be a reader...

Our wedding has 2 ushers and they are very good friends with my fiance.  I want to include them as much in the wedding ceremony as possible so they don't just look like we assigned them a title.  (They will be included in the fun parts of the wedding with the rest of the boys- but I also want them included in the ceremony.)

They are the type of guys who would want to play a bigger role in the wedding.  Some guys would enjoy less responsibility - but they would enjoy being more of a part of it (they are both romantics and are very close to my fiance).

My ideas so far include:
Having them escort the groom's grandma and the MOB down the isle.
Having them act as greeters and hand out the programs (but I wouldn't want this to take away from their time with the groom before the ceremony).
Having them each do a reading.

Here is the problem.  One is Jewish.  I completely respect his faith- but know nothing of his religion or what may offend him.  In the Catholic wedding, the first reading is from the Old Testament and the second is from the New.  Is having him read from the old acceptable or completely disrespectful of his faith since he will be doing it in a Church with crosses all around him.

My goal is to ask you girls before we ask him (because if this is a bad idea- simply asking him may be rude.  Please be honest!

My main question is about him doing a reading.. but I will welcome any and all feedback about the other ideas. 

Re: Asking a friend of another faith to be a reader...

  • I think it would be fine as long as you used him for the Old Testament reading. I am sure if he is adult/mature enough, he will understand and it isn't going to be traumatizing to him or anything.
  • I think you should just ask him, because even if he is really religious that doesn't necessarily mean he'll refuse or be offended. You could even preface it by saying that you don't want to offend him, but were wondering if he would do a reading.

    I'm not religious, but if a friend asked me to do one I wouldn't mind because it's not like I have to believe it or anything, it's just words to be but has a lot of meaning to the couple.
  • Renee, you should really get a new screenname. Having your full name up is not a good idea.
  • Could one of the reading not be from the bible?  We are having one biblical reading and one secular reading. 
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