Me and my fiance met away at college, and are planning to have the wedding in the state we met. We agreed that i would pick the bridesmaids, and he would pick the groomsman. My brother and i are pretty close, and my parents are helping pay for the wedding. His family is pretty distant and not willing to help at all. My parents are also providing the apartment for after we are married. My fiance didnt pick my brother to be a groomsman, and it was fine until my aunt made some comments about how wrong it was of me to not have my brother in my wedding. We said that he could be an usher or something, but he isnt one of my fiance's closest friends so we didnt want him to be a groomsman. My parents are extremely angry with us and are going to be really disappointed if we dont let my brother in. My brother hasnt mentioned anything, and they claim he doesnt really know that the brother is supposed to be int he wedding, nor would he talk about his feelings being hrut as a 17yr old boy. Would it really be that bad to not include my brother int he wedding party? Im not including my fiances younger sister, and their family doesnt seem to care. My fiance wasnt a part of his sisters wedding, although i realize his family is pretty dysfunctional. I know this is MY day, but i dont want to completely step on everyones toes. Is it really that off tradition to not have my brother in the wedding party?