My parents want me to be happy but they have their reservations. They are also mad at my Fiance. We got engaged on a cruise and he didn't ask permission. My parents live 1500 miles away. Now they are angry. They also don't know if he knows what he is supposed to take care of for a wedding but they don't understand that it will be just him, no family. They also want us to go to a engaged couple retreat. But my biggest problem is that they hid this from me for 4 months. What can i do to smooth the waters?