Wedding Help !! Please

mrmr095

Hey there, 

So i am in major need of some help ( i know my wedding is almost 2 years away but you should understand the worry. 

The Deatils: We are getting married on Sunday January 26 2014. We are having a church wedding it will be at 2:00pm and the ceremony should last about 1hr 30min. (maybe less).

  _ So should we take pictures before or after?

  _ Also how do you feel about the groom seeing the bride before she walks down the aisle?

Because what i am thinking is the cermony ends at around 3:30 and everyone goes to the recpetion venue (arrive there around 4) where there will be a cocktail hour and the actual recpetion beings at 5pm.  So we can have almost 2 hours to take pictures and just relax for a bit and hang out with the wedding party and parents.

So that takes care of my worries about about the reception.

Now on to the honeymoon!! 

Does the groom pay for it all?

Is it suppose to be a surprise for the bride or do you both plan it together?

When should we leave for the honeyoon? ( i thinking after the reception, overnight flight) 

For our honey we are thinking europe!! 

Almost 2 weeks!!

Paris,Floreance, Italy, Croatia, and Greece.

Advice on weather and clothes to pack ??

NOW THE BIG QUESTIONS

SO we are both virgins and i am soo nervous but i am also excited, 

So should we wait until we arrive in Paris to have our wedding night, or have it in a hotel and leave for the honeymoon the next day, because for we i like the romance of leaving right after the wedding, newlyweds going on their fist adventure as a married couple and having our first time in Paris ( the mot romantic city) 

 

Also im shy about my body so can anyone suggest any lingeire that i would feel comfortable wearing because ive beeing searching and i cant find something that is sexy but innocent in a way ( if you know what i mean) something i can feel comfortable and sexy in. 

daria24

Pictures before or after? We did a first look, and took the majority of our pictures BEFORE the ceremony. I don't handle anticipation well so I wanted to have my H see me ASAP and have a few moments alone before the ceremony. (After the photos we went to a private room and had about 10 minutes to ourselves). 

It's up to you and your FI what you would prefer. Whether he sees you or not, I recommend getting as many photos out of the way before the ceremony (you and your WP, he and his, you with your parents/siblings, etc). Even with two hours you will be very rushed for photos. 

Who pays for the HM? It is up to you and your groom to pay for your vacation. If he wants to pay for it great, but it's not "his" responsibility solely. 

Surprise or not? That's up to you guys and how you want to handle it. I personally wouldn't trust my H to be able to plan a whole vacation. 

When should you leave? I HIGHLY recommend you wait until two days post wedding. We got married on a Friday and left on Monday. The night of the wedding/the next day you will be exhausted and taking a red eye is brutual. You will be exhauasted landing after a red eye, no matter what, so I would want a few days to prepare and pack before I left for the HM.

What to pack? What time of year are you going? Also, for two weeks, i wouldn't go to all 5 of those places. I have been to Paris and spent just a week there, if you only have 2-3 days in each place, you will feel rushed and like you really didn't get to see it. I would choose one country and see 2-3 cities max. 

As for sex, I say do what feels right. When it's time, it's time, the location doesn't matter. And don't oversell the "romance" of a place-any place can be romantic. If you build things up too much in your head that they will be "perfect" you are setting yourself up to be disappointed. Paris can be very dirty, rude, confusing, etc. It can also be amazing. 

Lingerie? I bought some stuff from Macys, they have a bridal line that is pretty modest and sexy, not too trashy. 

GL!

Summer2011Bride

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[QUOTE]Hey there,  So i am in major need of some help ( i know my wedding is almost 2 years away but you should understand the worry.  The Deatils: We are getting married on Sunday January 26 2014. We are having a church wedding it will be at 2:00pm and the ceremony should last about 1hr 30min. (maybe less).   _  So should we take pictures before or after?   _ Also how do you feel about the groom seeing the bride before she walks down the aisle? Because what i am thinking is the cermony ends at around 3:30 and everyone goes to the recpetion venue (arrive there around 4) where there will be a cocktail hour and the actual recpetion beings at 5pm.  So we can have almost 2 hours to take pictures and just relax for a bit and hang out with the wedding party and parents. So that takes care of my worries about about the reception. Now on to the honeymoon!!  Does the groom pay for it all? Is it suppose to be a surprise for the bride or do you both plan it together? When should we leave for the honeyoon? ( i thinking after the reception, overnight flight)  For our honey we are thinking europe!!  Almost 2 weeks!! Paris,Floreance, Italy, Croatia, and Greece. Advice on weather and clothes to pack ?? NOW THE BIG QUESTIONS SO we are both virgins and i am soo nervous but i am also excited,  So should we wait until we arrive in Paris to have our wedding night, or have it in a hotel and leave for the honeymoon the next day, because for we i like the romance of leaving right after the wedding, newlyweds going on their fist adventure as a married couple and having our first time in Paris ( the mot romantic city)    Also im shy about my body so can anyone suggest any lingeire that i would feel comfortable wearing because ive beeing searching and i cant find something that is sexy but innocent in a way ( if you know what i mean) something i can feel comfortable and sexy in. 
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Doing a first look or not is totally up to you and FI. We didn't do one, but many couples do and love it. Discuss it with your FI and come to a decision. You can still do WP shots separately before the ceremony even without a first look. Just keep girls and guys separate.

I'm just curious: are you having a Catholic mass for the ceremony? That's the only time I've seen a ceremony last 90 min.

For the HM, it doesn't really matter who pays for it. H and I combined our finances so WE paid for it. We didn't distinguish between his money and mine. My ILs also gave us money toward the HM as our wedding gift, so they paid for some too. Just don't ask anyone to pay for it. Also, I enjoy planning trips and H is horrible at it. It would have been a nightmare if he had done it as a surprise and I liked knowing where we were going. Again, these are all personal decisions so we can't really answer for you.

I haven't been to those places, so I can't suggest clothes, but you can find online what typical temps are at any given place at any given time, so I'd check that out before going.

We left for the HM two days after our wedding and loved that decision. I would personally not want to fly out the same night or even the next morning. You are underestimating how exhausted you might be after your wedding day. It was so nice to have one day to just chill, pack, and relax. I would highly recommend waiting a day or two especially with a long flight.

Sex is such a personal thing, there's no way we can answer those questions for you. Talk to FI. i will say that the first time is not necessarily romantic. It isn't like in the movies or on TV. It can be awkward, very awkward. Don't be afraid to laugh at yourselves and have fun with it. Having said that I think the more you build it up to a super romantic, movie type thing, the more letdown you may be.

For lingerie: VS has some nice stuff as do dept stores for some lingerie that's less pricey. For more coverage, they have some sexy, silky slips/robes etc. that are still very pretty and feminine but give more coverage.

ETA: Also with the HM realize that is a LOT of traveling for two weeks. It's a long flight just to get to Europe, then you are going to a bunch of different countries within 14 days, which means more time taken up by traveling. I would probably scale back. Maybe do just France and Italy this time and plan a future or anniversary trip to visit the others. You also want to be able to ENJOY each destination and not feel rushed.

Simply Fated

the ceremony should last about 1hr 30min. (maybe less).
Holy crap that's long. Sorry... what were you saying....

  _ So should we take pictures before or after?
  _ Also how do you feel about the groom seeing the bride before she walks down the aisle?
It's totally up to you. Personally, I like seeing the groom's expression when he first sees the bride, but I wouldn't, like, STORM out of there all pissed off if I found out he'd already seen her lol


Does the groom pay for it all?
I've never heard of that before. Once you guys are married, your expenses are sorta... shared. So it doesn't really matter at this point who pays for what.

Is it suppose to be a surprise for the bride or do you both plan it together?
I've never heard of the groom surprising the bride before. Do you want to be completely surprised or would you rather have a say in what's going on? Decide that, first, then get on the same page as him. He might not want the whole burden of planning a trip. I planned a trip last year for me and my dad and I nearly had a nervous breakdown. It was NOT a pretty sight.

When should we leave for the honeyoon? ( i thinking after the reception, overnight flight)
I would wait until the next day. Wedding days are long and exhausting. Again, it's up to you, though,

For our honey we are thinking europe!!
Almost 2 weeks!!
Paris,Floreance, Italy, Croatia, and Greece.
Advice on weather and clothes to pack ??
I thought you wanted to be surprised.... or not? I'm confused...


SO we are both virgins and i am soo nervous but i am also excited,
Mazel Tov!

So should we wait until we arrive in Paris to have our wedding night, or have it in a hotel and leave for the honeymoon the next day, because for we i like the romance of leaving right after the wedding, newlyweds going on their fist adventure as a married couple and having our first time in Paris ( the mot romantic city)
Every single one of my married friends will tell you that while they planned and planned for their big wedding night... they both got back to their homes, hotels, where ever and passed the eff out from exhaustion. Don't stress over everything being perfect your first night. You love him, and he loves you so it WILL be perfect, even if it's not exactly how you planned it.
 
Also im shy about my body so can anyone suggest any lingeire that i would feel comfortable wearing because ive beeing searching and i cant find something that is sexy but innocent in a way ( if you know what i mean) something i can feel comfortable and sexy in.
Victoria's Secret. The people there are actually really helpful and nice. Well, most of them are. They're supposed to be trained to help you find something that suits you. There are some racy stuff in that store, but also very simple stuff, too. I hate my body and even I found something I felt comfortable in.
Either that, or try a store like Target. They have strangely sexy but innocent things there sometimes.

amyelise25

I'm from Baltimore and have traveled a bunch of times to Europe and there won't be any way to hop on a plane overseas that night unless you want to leave your reception REALLY early. Wait until the next day, at least. At least your wedding exhaustion should help you conk out on the flight over. I know that one of the popular cities in Croatia is Dubrovnik (super gorgeous). It's on the sea and might be pretty chilly that time of year. The pretty places in Greece are the islands and they won't be as nice in the winter. If you want to get a taste of a lot of places in Europe, and if it's your first time, a tour might be helpful. It isn't as romantic, but it would be a trip to remember. Maybe narrow it down to Paris and Italian cities. There are plenty of museums and indoor sights that you can do to stay out of the cold. Just my two cents.

DeannaCW

If you really want to hit a lot of places in Europe, try a river cruise. I've been to Europe a few times, last couple for long stints, and too much travel can break you. Earlier this year, we visited Vienna, Venice, and Rome over ten days, and that was a LOT.  If you do the cruise idea, that can get you quite a few cities and possibly countries without adding extra travel time for you.