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Special Dances....

future.mrs.horrellfuture.mrs.horrell member
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So here's the deal, my father passed away a few years ago and I'm getting married in October. I have decided that my older brother will be giving me away at the wedding. But my mother really wants to have a mother/son dance for my fiance and his mother. But I'm just wondering what songs would be good for a brother/sister dance. Also what would be a good way to honour my father at the wedding. So far all I have in mind is a bouquet of white roses surrounding a single red rose. Does anyone have any ideas?

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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    I'm sorry for the loss of your dad.

    Just because your FI has a dance with his mom, that doesn't mean that you also have to have a spotlight dance.  If you really want one with your brother, then do it.  But don't have one just to "even out the dances".

    I also think that anything you do to honor your dad should be subtle.  I know people suggest the empty chair thing, but for me that's really "in your face" and makes me very uncomfortable.

    You can add a charm to your bouquet with your dad's initials or even a locket with his picture added in.  You can have a mention of your dad in programs (if you're having programs) or you can have a memory candle.  You can have a mention of your dad in a prayer during your ceremony.

    3 weeks before DD's wedding, my mom died.  DD and her grandma were very close and she was so sad not to have her grandma with her.  In addition, SIL's dad had died 9 months before the wedding.

    Our minister spoke a little about each of them, and included them in the grace before dinner.  It was very touching, but not maudlin.

    GL


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  • PipS2010PipS2010 member
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    My dad also passed a few years ago, and my brothers will be walking me down as well.  I had always dreamed about dancing with my daddy at my wedding, so I am going to dance with my FFIL who was my dad's best friend to a song that talks about someone still smiling down even after they die.  It's definitely going to be a tearjerker, but everyone that will be at the wedding knows the situation so I don't feel it's super awkward.  My sister did something similar at her wedding and everyone really appreciated it.
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  • future.mrs.horrellfuture.mrs.horrell member
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    Thanks Everyone!

    You have given some really great ideas.
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