So here's the deal.. I thought I had my O.N.B&B thing figured out. I was going to wear an aquamarine (my birthstone) necklace that my FI gave me as my blue, Dress is new, Borrowed was a piece of my sister's dress she saved and I would wrap my bouquet in, and old was my Aunt's ring (the last thing she gave me before she died).
Now going by the main purpose of these traditions, the Borrowed item is supposed to be from someone with a successful marriage as to borrow their success and happiness.
My sister was the only person that I could really think of who has had a successful marriage. There are others, but they're all second marriages which is fine, but I thought coming from my sister would be best... Now she tells me she's having problems in her marriage. I feel unsure about what to do.
The piece of her dress doesn't carry the same meaning, but I'm not so much worried about that, obviously. I don't want to insult her by saying I don't want it anymore, but also still wanting it could upset her too.
My FMIL has a hankerchief that's been handed down from her mother she offered to let me use. I just don't want to make this harder on my sister... What should I do?
