Mothers

gower2be

My FI's grandmother and I don't seem to be on the same page about how the mothers enter the church. She is taking the place of his mother as a personal preference. she thinks the groom is supposed to escort the mothers down the isle and I am really opposed because I don't want him to see me until I enter. Now at my besties wedding I was the MOH and the groom entered with his groomsmen at the side by the altar and the mothers led the procession by themeselves. I like the way my bestie did it but I don't want to be in a conflict with grandma. I dont know how its supposed to go I've only been to the one wedding.

gower2be

His bestman has known her for a long time so thats a possibility I think I will ask the officiant if there is a certain way the church wants it before I make a final choice, just wanted to know if there were any ways it MUST be done

SarahPLiz

Each chuch and ceremony venue is different, so just find the logistics that work for how the space is arranged. Trix gave some really good suggestions. There is no one way that people should be seated.

kimberlyann1974

 The wedding I've always been to, they've had an usher seat the parents while the groom waited at the front...I've never seen it another way. Just explain to grams in the nicest way that it has to be this way since there is no way that he could avoid seeing you, you can even throw in that you like the idea of him doing that way because it would be very sweet...but you checked the logistics and it just doesn't work.

Good luck

CA2MT4EveR

why would he see you if he is escorting the moms?

megk8oz

At my wedding, we did not have ushers at all. DH really wanted to seat his mother (He's the only son). My 1 brother was a GM and we wanted him to seat my mother as well (And it never really dawned on us to have anybody else seat them, this made sense to us). But we did not want to see each other until I was walking down the aisle myself.

How we worked it was: DH and the GMs all entered (My brother included) along with our RB. Then DH and our RB (DH's nephew) walked up the aisle and went to escort his mom.

After she was seated, my brother followed suit and escorted my mom (Along with my youngest brother, who is 9 and did not feel comfortable being in the BP).

 Our ceremony was indoors, and the doors to the room were near a corner in a hallway. We set it up so I'd be "hidden" around the corner until both moms were seated. Is there a way you could do something like this?

If this is really important to your FI, I'd really try to figure out something like what I did. Both moms were very happy with the arrangement, and all of our guests actually thought it was very sweet that they were seated by their sons.