Step-Dad vs. Real Dad walking down the aisle

nthing2prove2u

Basically my real dad signed his rights over to my step dad when I was 6 yrs old and has been my father ever since. My real dad and I don't have a great relationship but I have a great relationship with his side of the family. 

So, do I suck it up and ask both my fathers to walk me down the aisle or do I risk my real dad and his side of the family being angry and possibly disowning me if I don't ask my real dad at all?

Pirata13

Hmmm tough call but honestly, if I was in your situation, I'd have my stepdad walk me down the aisle.  If he has been a true father to you, I think it would be disrespectful to him to have your bio dad who hasn't been involved with your life do it at such an important moment in your life. 

IMO, your dad already basically disowned you when he chose to not be involved in your life. And if his side of the family knows that he gave up his rights and hasn't been involved in your life much, they should understand. 

trix1223

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[QUOTE]Basically my real dad signed his rights over to my step dad when I was 6 yrs old and has been my father ever since. My real dad and I don't have a great relationship but I have a great relationship with his side of the family.  So, do I suck it up and ask both my fathers to walk me down the aisle or do I risk my real dad and his side of the family being angry and possibly disowning me if I don't ask my real dad at all?
Posted by nthing2prove2u[/QUOTE]

In my opinion, your stepdad IS your "real" dad.  He's the one who raised you and did all the dad things.  To call your bio dad your "real" dad is just wrong to me.  I wouldn't give him that credit.  I'd call him your biological dad and nothing more.

I'd have the man who's been your read dad throughout your life walk you down the aisle.

Oops....I'd have the man who'se been your **REAL** dad throughout your life walk you down the aisle.

bbyckes

Have your step-dad walk you down the aisle. 

megk8oz

My parents divorced when I was 2, my mom re-married when I was 4. My bio-dad has had very little to do with me (I see him pretty much at Christmas). My step-dad is my "real" dad as far as I'm concerned. He's the one who took care of me when I had the chicken pox, the one who saw me off to my prom, and he's the one DH went to when it was time to ask my parents' blessing.

When it came time for me to make my decision, it was a no-brainer. My step-dad had all the "dad" honors at my wedding, and bio-dad was a guest.

PressMe

Your real dad's family knows that he hasn't been in your life.  They won't be surprised at all to see you walk down the aisle with your stepfather.

Jo-Rose01

My parents seperated before I was born, I was actually going to get my mom to walk me down the isle but it was her suggestion that they both do it.