Due to family conflicts on my FI's side, we aren't having an actual wedding party. My daughter will be the flower girl and my boys will be walking me down the aisle. However, my best friend is taking the day off to help with the day of stuff and another friend is probably going to as well. My sister will be there as well as my quasi nanny. I had decided to make totes for my sister and nanny with "Sister of the Bride" and "Nanny of Honor" on them and am now trying to decide what to put on my friends' totes. My best friend knows she would have been my matron of honor had things been differently as I would have been at hers two years ago, but she had similar issues so I wanted to put that on her tote.
The issue lies in the other friend who has always been very jealous of my best friend and has even gone so far as to argue that she should be my best friend instead. I know there will be an issue when she sees my best friend's tote and my best friend would understand if I put the same thing on my other friend's tote, but I really don't want to put anything other than bridesmaid. My other friend has a good heart, but she can be selfish and demanding at times and doesn't have any kids and frankly still acts like she's still in high school despite being in her 30s.
So, I guess I'm wondering if I risk the potential drama or if there is some other thing I can put that is higher than a bridesmaid, but lower than matron of honor. Any thoughts or ideas?